My husband is constantly unfaithful

Q I married a younger man who loved porn, sex-ting, and lying. We divorced after I discovered that he was visiting escorts after our second year of marriage.

During the divorce period, he was seeing a co-worker. He played us both — he’d return to me, and then go to her.

After two years, he “came back.” But I soon realized he continued sex-ting his female co-workers.

Yet he always convinced me that he’d change.

Meanwhile, I was paying for food, expenses, and he lived in my house for free, though he has his own condo.

He also detests my relationship with my family and shows no caring for them.

Suddenly, he stopped having intimacy with me. He even dresses privately; I haven’t seen his body for two years.

Then I found porn again last year, followed by many lunch dates with his female co-workers.

For a few months there’d be gifts for me, help with chores, and he booked expensive trips.

After I said that I couldn’t handle the lack of intimacy, transparency, and honesty, he just ignored me and said that I was just suspicious.

This pattern of lying, cheating, and denying is killing me.

I asked him to leave but he won’t because he knows that I don’t want to involve the police.

He’ll also say that I own this expensive house, which was settled in my divorce with him, but I didn’t pay him enough so he’s not leaving.

I don’t know what to do. — Marital Madness

A See your divorce lawyer again. This has become an ugly endurance test, not a marriage worth keeping.

He lies and cheats because he gets away with it. He shows no love or respect for you, yet you don’t take serious steps to separate.

Secure whatever you legally can of your assets, and focus on your own life and future. There’s no happiness or future for you with this man.