Father should offer support, but not step in

Q My daughter’s been married to her husband for more than a year. They lived together for several years before marriage.

They’re both in their late 20s, employed with good jobs. They bought a house just before getting married.

A couple of weeks ago our daughter called us in tears. Apparently, her husband has been going out “with the boys” every weekend this past summer, spending no time with her on their time off.

When she asked if anything was wrong and how they could improve their relationship, he said he was “having doubts about his future, including (her).”

How long should she let this go on? Should I step in and try to help, or do they have to work this out themselves? Worried Dad

A It’s hard to stand back and see your daughter hurt, but “stepping in” to a marital problem her husband’s not sharing with you could distance him further. She needs your support, love and positive company when she’s lonely.

Most important, suggest she get counselling on her own, as a professional has experience unearthing the underlying issues.