Men share their pain
The #MeToo movement is not only about women and girls. Men and boys have suffered sexual assaults, sexual abuse. Here, men are sharing their pain.
#MeToo: From ages six to 12, my brother who was seven years older solicited my participation in sexual touching, mutual masturbation, nakedness. Secrecy was sworn.
The results: Shyness as a kid in school, never feeling part of anything. Seeking similar experiences with my friends and rejected. I turned to alcohol at 13. It was difficult to date girls. When I married, I had lots of barriers in sex, only went through the motions. Career unfulfilling, difficult with authority — unless I held the reins. Separated. Quit job, abuse “remembered” all within days. Went to Alcoholics Anonymous, still sober after 13 years. Stuff that still dwells: A blurry line between the feelings of like, love and lust.
MeToo: I was around five. A friend’s dad was dropping us kids off from an outing and asked me to wait in the car. Once alone, he started to very creepily rub my leg while talking to me. He kept rubbing higher and higher up my thigh ... it makes me shudder just to remember it. I was in shock. I remember feeling like puking. Thankfully, I somehow knew that this was wrong and perverted and before he could react or stop me, I got out of the car faster than I’ve maybe ever moved and ran into my house.
I never told my parents about this. The memory has never gone away. He never showed up again.