Women saw conversation differently

Dear Abby: My boyfriend of two years works for a company with 160 employees, 95 miles from our town. He held a party at a restaurant located near the company. I knew no one and doubt very much I will ever run into these people again.

While I was at the party, I met a young woman who, like myself, was there with her boyfriend and didn't know anyone.

We chatted for half an hour about the holidays and made general conversation.

When she mentioned she had been recently diagnosed with a condition I have too, I gave her some websites to check out for information and told her not to worry. I also told her that if I can be well and deal with this issue, anyone can. Our conversation lasted about 15 minutes, and I asked no personal questions. When I had to leave the party, she remained sitting by herself and started playing with her phone.

The next day, my boyfriend was angry because upon leaving with her boyfriend, the woman told him, “Your girlfriend kept nagging me about my condition and wouldn't shut up.” I was dumbfounded and hurt. I was trying to be nice.

Why did my boyfriend tell me? He said nothing to her to defend me. Even worse, what did he accomplish by repeating what she had said? He knew it would make me feel bad. I'll never run into these people again. Am I wrong in feeling hurt? Dumbfounded in the East

Dear Dumbfounded: I am still trying to figure out why someone would tell a stranger at a party her medical status and then take offence if the person tried to be helpful. If what you were saying made her uncomfortable, she should have said it to you, not your boyfriend. You aren't wrong for feeling hurt.

However, you ARE wrong to blame your boyfriend for telling you something he thought you needed to hear. That's what people who love each other do.