Child needs parental help

“Will this happen to your son? If he DOESN’T get help it’s very likely he’ll end up in the same space as me. Ask yourselves, what’ll happen to your son after you’re both gone and he’s truly alone?”

Reader #3 — “Young adults may try different paths before finding their fit. Be their champion. Listen. Have patience.

“I’d suspect depression, possible focus issues (a learning disability), lack of confidence, or lack of problemsolving ability. Or, something not shared with you that’s distressing him.

“Let him know you’re in his corner. Don’t bring up past mistakes, losses, or issues.

“Suggest a doctor’s visit for a general check-up. Say you love him and his health’s important.

“Ask what he’d like, going forward. Look at your relationship at home. If you change your interactions to very positive ones, he’ll begin to change too over time. If you need a mental health specialist, do the research to find one he’ll accept. Suggest he decides through a phone interview. Don’t be nosy about the appointment if he goes.

“Let him know you’re not perfect. Most people have had a mental health issue, like depression, at some point.

“Be thankful your child is safe in your home and you can still help him.”

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A young adult child’s mental health issues strain everyone, but he/she desperately needs parental support and help. Email ellie@thestar.ca. Follow @ellieadvice.