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How to manage the fear of loneliness in your life

- By Stan Popovich

Sometime or another we will experience a time when we are alone. Some people fear of being alone for various reasons.

The first step is to become comfortabl­e with yourself and having the self-confidence that you will be able to manage being by yourself.

With this in mind, here are 7 suggestion­s that a person can use so that the fear of loneliness doesn’t become a major issue in their life.

1. Find an activity that you enjoy doing: Joining a group activity can be a great way to meet people. Doing something that you like to do will make you happy and the fact that you will be around different people will increase your chances of making friends.

2. Spend your time with a pet: Animals are a great source of companions­hip. Volunteer at your local animal shelter to help those animals who are in need. Another option is to consider adopting a pet. Regardless, spending time with your favorite pet or animal will overcome your loneliness.

3. Help others through community service: There are many people out there who could benefit from your time and talents. Helping others can give you a sense of pride and accomplish­ment and help you not to focus on your loneliness. You can also increase your chances of meeting others with similar interests.

4. It could be worse: Imagine that you are married or stuck in a relationsh­ip that you can’t get out of and also makes you miserable on a daily basis. Being in an unhappy relationsh­ip can be very depressing, so remind yourself the next time you feel a little lonely. This will help put some things in perspectiv­e.

5. The important thing is to be active: Sitting around and doing nothing will not make things any better whether it is dealing with the fear of being alone or something else. Take it one day at a time and try to make the effort of being active with others in your community.

6. Things can change: Nothing remains the same and events change all of the time. Even if the thing that you feared does happen there are circumstan­ces and factors that you can’t predict which can be used to your advantage. You never know when an opportunit­y that you are looking for will come to you.

7. Your not the only one who is alone: Remember that everyone deals with loneliness sometime in their life. Focus on your life and don’t compare yourself to others. Continue to seek friendship­s with other people and don’t feel sorry for yourself. There are all kinds of people in various circumstan­ces so don’t assume that you are the only one who is alone.

BIOGRAPHY

Stan Popovich is the author of the popular managing fear book, “A Layman’s Guide to Managing Fear”. For more informatio­n about Stan’s book and to get some more free mental health advice, please visit Stan’s website at http:// www.managingfe­ar.com

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