Teach­ing kind­ness as a core value

Richmond Hill Post - - Parent To Parent -

them why that hap­pened, we tele­graph our val­ues clearly. And they get it.

A fam­ily, as a small com­mu­nity with its own val­ues, is a petri dish for teach­ing nice — or not. This is a ques­tion of stan­dards.

In my ex­pe­ri­ence chil­dren mostly like to meet the stan­dards that are set for them. A lot of us par­ents th­ese days want to breed hockey stars and jazz dancers and aca­demic win­ners. We may say we don’t, but if you an­a­lyze the stuff we pri­or­i­tize for our kids, we do. How high on the list is nice? Does kind­ness rank above good grades? Or be­low it, and af­ter ex­tracur­ric­u­lars?

This mat­ters, be­cause you can talk a good game about kind­ness, but un­less the com­mu­nity you lead has nice near the top of its agenda, you’re not re­quir­ing it.

Kids are ob­ser­vant. They know our true val­ues by the walk we walk, not by the talk we talk. And they will fol­low us there, as kids do.

Is it pos­si­ble to build nice kids? Or do we just have to wait and hope?

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