Teaching kindness as a core value
them why that happened, we telegraph our values clearly. And they get it.
A family, as a small community with its own values, is a petri dish for teaching nice — or not. This is a question of standards.
In my experience children mostly like to meet the standards that are set for them. A lot of us parents these days want to breed hockey stars and jazz dancers and academic winners. We may say we don’t, but if you analyze the stuff we prioritize for our kids, we do. How high on the list is nice? Does kindness rank above good grades? Or below it, and after extracurriculars?
This matters, because you can talk a good game about kindness, but unless the community you lead has nice near the top of its agenda, you’re not requiring it.
Kids are observant. They know our true values by the walk we walk, not by the talk we talk. And they will follow us there, as kids do.
Is it possible to build nice kids? Or do we just have to wait and hope?