HOME I MPROVEMENT Little pressures can test sanity during renovation
Two summers ago, I spent an afternoon offering advice to a woman who was in the middle of a major and painful renovation. It was her first one and it was taking longer than she and her husband had planned.
It was also costing more than she — and especially he — expected. And while we sat on the tailgate of a work truck in her driveway, figuring out the details behind the technical issue that she had called me about, I realized how the root of renovation anxieties go beyond mere decisions about how to build.
In the end, we did figure out how to make several specific things happen, but I also offered her a way of seeing her building adventure that left her calmer than when I arrived. Major renovations — even the best ones — are way beyond ordinary life and perhaps a few insights into the process will help you, too.
Building is a lot like tobogganing down a hill. When you slide, it’s never possible to map out an exact course. When you renovate, sometimes things move more quickly than you’d like, sometimes you get stuck. The pace of decision-making that’s required can be fast and scary or boring and frustrating.
The higher your expectations, the greater the need to wrestle with compromise and to flex in prudent directions during the building process. It took me years to learn this the hard way, so I know it’s not always easy.
The woman I helped with the decisions on her reno, for instance, had a property with a classic stone building in a rural community. This urbanite’s vision included traditional, authentic materials throughout and that’s something I’m partial to as well. But sometimes, in specific situations, modern materials make so much more sense.
“I didn’t come all the way to the country to build MDF beadboard into my life,” she explained — a sentiment I understand completely. But when you want some things that only MDF trim can provide — low cost, excellent paintability and a range of available profiles — there may be reasons to look at things differently.
Even the best-run projects sometimes feel like disasters when you’re in the middle of them. Construction is an ugly, loud, expensive and messy process. Your struggle ultimately boils down to the difference between theory and practice — the difference between the home you see in your head and the home you’re able to create. The two never quite meet.
Renovation often takes longer than you expect, costs more than you initially thought and involves more mental anguish than seems reasonable. Choose your contractor well, keep smiling, and by the time you get to the bottom of the hill, you’ll probably be thinking the whole renovation ride wasn’t so bad after all.