Meeting former crush could lead to regrets

The following column was originally published in 2005.

Dear Annie: I’ve been married to “Joe,” a wonderful man, for eight years.

A year ago, I came across an old letter (from 10 years back) from a friend, “Mike.”

Joe knows that I had a crush on Mike, but we never dated. In the letter, Mike (who is married, and was at that time he wrote it) said he wanted to catch up on lost time and said I should write or call “any time.”

Annie, since the discovery of the letter, I think about Mike all the time. I don’t want to cheat on Joe. I just want to know what Mike is up to these days.

We were great friends back in the day. I want to write Mike and possibly get together, with our spouses, but I have a feeling Joe won’t be too keen on the idea. He doesn’t know about the letter.

Is it realistic for two people of the opposite sex to remain friends even though the spouses don’t know each other? Contemplating a Reunion

Dear Contemplating: If your intention is simply to find out what happened to an old friend, it shouldn’t have all this skulduggery attached to it.

Meeting up, with your spouses, is perfectly fine, as long as you are honest about it.

The problem is, you have been fixated for a year on this old letter, which tells us you may be fantasizing about Mike.

Don’t plan anything you’ll regret.