Single man on cruise control

Dear Annie: I’m dating a guy who works out of town and is home every four weeks. “Jake” calls and texts often and says he misses me all the time. Here’s what bothers me: Jake always asks me how I feel about him. He says, “Do you even like me?” I think it’s because I don’t drop everything when he calls like other women he has dated.

I recently found out via Facebook that Jake went on a cruise with a woman he used to live with. She’s been posting pictures of the cruise and saying how much she loves Jake. There is nothing about the cruise posted on Jake’s page. I told him about her comments.

He replied that he didn’t know anything about it, and she was obviously just thanking all of the people on the cruise for their love and support. But he added that she’s a wonderful woman and they’d be in a relationship if she lived closer.

I said he’s being unfair to both of us, but he claims he’s not married and will continue to call me until I tell him to stop. Since then, he’s phoned a couple of times and I refuse to take his calls. Is this a case of wanting to have your cake and eat it, too? Daisy Mae

Dear Daisy: It sounds like it, although as a single man, he can date as many women as he likes until he makes a commitment. You thought he had made one to you, but he believed otherwise. It’s possible he was attracted to you because you didn’t fawn all over him. But that results in a stable relationship only in the movies.

In real life, such men thrive on the attention, and since they rarely get enough of it from one partner, they look for it in many others.

Right now, he thinks you’ll cave.

If you want him to stop calling, you’ll have to tell him point blank. Annie’s Mailbox is written by Kathy Mitchell and Marcy Sugar, longtime editors of the Ann Landers column.