Always be thankful for what we have
JILL PAYNE BE A 10
October is a natural time to reflect on why we are thankful. It’s an ideal time to reflect on our lives and take note of what’s awesome and also where we’d like to do some work. Check in with yourself. Are you focused on your goals and the future or are you stuck on the what-ifs and the woes?
Our brains are like a radio station. Do you give more airtime to the problems or solutions?
What could go wrong or the ideal situation? Have you ever noticed how one makes you feel positive and one makes you negative?
We need to remind ourselves that from every disappointment comes a new ideal situation. A lot of people don’t allow themselves to let go and move toward the best-case scenario; we have trained ourselves to default toward the negative.
Why do we do that when there’s so much to be thankful for? Our ability to turn a problem into an ideal is our most powerful muscle. This is our opportunity to choose versus react.
It is up to us to choose how we will let our circumstances affect us. We can be victimized and choose the negative path or we can embrace a positive outlook. The conditions around us will match how we feel inside. We are all guilty of waiting for our condi- tions to match our desires. It’s time to flip that notion on its head.
For example, I tell myself that when I get a six pack, I will feel happy. But what happens when I get the six pack? Will I be happy forever? No. So, it’s really not the six pack I’m seeking, but rather the feeling of happiness I’ll have when I achieve my goal.
Focus on the feeling you want and strategize ways to get there. There is more than one way to find happiness. The whole idea is that our goals are actually the feelings that we want. Ask yourself: “How can I like my body now? How can I feel confident now?”
You are not in your excuses when you’re actively seeking what you desire. Any when you get it, you’ll be oh so thankful.
Focus on what makes you feel good and move forward with that in mind. Windsor native Jill Payne is an energy-positive, highly trained motivational speaker and trainer. Her unique programs push individuals and corporations to dime all day long. For more about her personal and corporate coaching programs, visit jillpayne.ca.