Survival guide for renovating couples
You hate the ceramic tiles, the leaky faucet is driving you crazy and that colour on the walls, which was all the rage in 2002, has long served its purpose. You’ve been dreaming of renovating your home for ages, but be careful — home renovations are often the cause of friction between a couple. Here are a few tips for avoiding fights with your partner during renovations.
1. Communicate. Yes, this is still and will always be the key to successful renovating. Be open to your partner’s needs and express your own without imposing your ideas. No one wants to be told what to do and what to like. Instead, explain what is motivating your choices.
2. Ask for advice. If you can’t come to an agreement, talk to an architect, designer or even a friend — if he or she has good taste, of course. Let them play the role of mediator and help you both decide.
3. Plan. Before you start work on your project, schedule each step of the renovations, deciding exactly what has to be done and when. Changing your mind about room in the house is under construction and your nerves are stretched to the breaking point.
4. Make compromises. Obviously, you don’t want to have to look at yellow walls for the next few years if you happen to hate that particular colour. But is it really so important that the cabinets have oval handles? Choose your battles based on what’s most important to you.
5. Expect the unexpected. Surprise expenses during a renovation are practically inevitable and, as you probably already know, money can be a major source of conflict. Plan your budget accordingly and make sure you’re both on the same wavelength.
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