Sur­vival guide for ren­o­vat­ing cou­ples

South Shore Breaker - - Homes - CON­TRIBUTED ed­i­tor@southshore­

You hate the ce­ramic tiles, the leaky faucet is driv­ing you crazy and that colour on the walls, which was all the rage in 2002, has long served its pur­pose. You’ve been dream­ing of ren­o­vat­ing your home for ages, but be care­ful — home ren­o­va­tions are of­ten the cause of fric­tion be­tween a cou­ple. Here are a few tips for avoid­ing fights with your part­ner dur­ing ren­o­va­tions.

1. Com­mu­ni­cate. Yes, this is still and will al­ways be the key to suc­cess­ful ren­o­vat­ing. Be open to your part­ner’s needs and ex­press your own without im­pos­ing your ideas. No one wants to be told what to do and what to like. In­stead, ex­plain what is mo­ti­vat­ing your choices.

2. Ask for ad­vice. If you can’t come to an agree­ment, talk to an ar­chi­tect, de­signer or even a friend — if he or she has good taste, of course. Let them play the role of me­di­a­tor and help you both de­cide.

3. Plan. Be­fore you start work on your project, sched­ule each step of the ren­o­va­tions, de­cid­ing ex­actly what has to be done and when. Chang­ing your mind about room in the house is un­der con­struc­tion and your nerves are stretched to the break­ing point.

4. Make com­pro­mises. Ob­vi­ously, you don’t want to have to look at yel­low walls for the next few years if you hap­pen to hate that par­tic­u­lar colour. But is it re­ally so im­por­tant that the cab­i­nets have oval han­dles? Choose your bat­tles based on what’s most im­por­tant to you.

5. Ex­pect the un­ex­pected. Sur­prise ex­penses dur­ing a ren­o­va­tion are prac­ti­cally in­evitable and, as you prob­a­bly al­ready know, money can be a ma­jor source of con­flict. Plan your bud­get ac­cord­ingly and make sure you’re both on the same wave­length.


There are sev­eral ways to keep your lips in tip-top shape.

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