I’m done with Face­book for a se­ries of rea­sons

The Daily Press (Timmins) - - OPINION - Naomi Lakritz

Face­book re­cently banned a good friend of mine for 24 hours. her crime? When she re­sponded to some vile anti-semitic re­marks some­one had posted, she vi­o­lated Face­book’s com­mu­nity stan­dards. What did she say that so ruf­fled Face­book’s feath­ers that they pun­ished her for it? she told the anti-semite to “crawl back un­der your rock, ser­pent.”

That’s tame when you com­pare it with what the orig­i­nal poster said, but he wasn’t banned. Not sur­pris­ing. i’ve pre­vi­ously re­ported to Face­book cer­tain post­ings call­ing for “death to the Jews.” The re­sponse i al­ways got was that such a post­ing does not vi­o­late Face­book’s com­mu­nity stan­dards and would not be re­moved. re­ally? Face­book thinks it’s per­fectly OK to in­cite peo­ple to kill Jews?

That’s just one more rea­son why i’m glad i’m no longer on Face­book. That mark Zucker­berg, who is Jewish, would al­low such things is dis­grace­ful.

There are other rea­sons i’m happy to be done with Face­book. i was tired of hav­ing tele­phone or email con­ver­sa­tions with friends and then see­ing ads ap­pear on my Face­book page for what­ever we had been dis­cussing. Once a friend men­tioned Kelowna in pass­ing dur­ing a phone con­ver­sa­tion and for months af­ter­wards, ads for ho­tels in Kelowna popped up on my Face­book page. it’s creepy.

an­other rea­son i quit Face­book was best summed up by a woman writ­ing awhile ago in the New york Times. she said she’s not on Face­book for the same rea­son she doesn’t go around her neigh­bour­hood each morn­ing, knock­ing on doors and ask­ing peo­ple what they had for break­fast and what’s new in their lives.

Then, there was the trou­bling com­ment from Face­book’s early days that Zucker­berg is still try­ing to live down. he called Face­book users “dumb f---s” for trust­ing him with their per­sonal data. does he still feel that way? Who knows?

and let’s not for­get Face­book syn­drome, the con­di­tion that you suc­cumb to when you’re scrolling through your friends’ posts, grow­ing in­creas­ingly de­pressed be­cause they all seem to be liv­ing such per­fect live. Of course, they face the same ups and downs that every­one else does. but on Face­book, it doesn’t look that way.

how ridicu­lous this all is was made clear when i was at my den­tist’s where a sign in the wait­ing room urges pa­tients to “like” the den­tist’s of­fice on Face­book. What­ever for? i like my den­tist, but why would i want to fol­low his of­fice on Face­book?

it was the same sev­eral years ago when i made a quick lunch stop at some ham­burger stand on a ru­ral road in man­i­toba. “like us on Face­book!” a sign by the counter urged pa­trons. What for?

Not be­ing on Face­book is a re­lief. it’s like be­ing back in the 1980s. a sooth­ing quiet has de­scended. Face­book’s noise is gone. a mil­lion things don’t shout for my at­ten­tion, like other peo­ple’s cats, pup­pies, ba­bies, trips, chil­dren’s achieve­ments, po­lit­i­cal views, boasts and, of course, zil­lions of causes be­ing pushed by zil­lions of groups. i have so much more time to do the things that i want to do, in­clud­ing be­ing with friends in the real world.

Writ­ing in the Guardian ear­lier this year, com­puter sci­en­tist Jaron lanier, au­thor of the book Ten ar­gu­ments for delet­ing your so­cial me­dia ac­counts right Now, said: “While it is per­va­sive, Face­book has not brought as much into the world as it may seem.” he added, “Those who have gone through the ex­it­ing process, how­ever, might find that in the end they have not only made a po­lit­i­cal state­ment but saved time and im­proved their lives.”

i don’t care about mak­ing po­lit­i­cal state­ments. i just know that a Face­book-free life is amaz­ing.

Naomi Lakritz is a Cal­gary jour­nal­ist.

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