Don’t enable nasty behaviour

Q - I have a temperamental bully colleague who started dating someone about 10 months ago.

She’s very narcissistic and tells me things that other people would keep quiet, because she feels that I’m no threat to her plan.

She’s very candid about knowing “who he was” and his financial status when she met him, and she went after him because of it.

She considers him to be her future security so is doing what she can to lock him down.

She can’t stand his parents, considers them simple, was unbelievably critical of their house (not opulent enough for her), and hates his ex-wife and kids.

The kids haven’t warmed to her and she doesn’t care. She considers them an afterthought and not relevant to her goal.

She fakes it with all the family and most of their friends.

She says she keeps him drinking when they’re together. It’s so he doesn’t notice her faking her feelings, and so she can’t be annoyed by his non-stop business talk.

She tolerates the sex but convinces him that she loves it all - loves him, and that she’s so happy - so she can secure a life for her and her son.

She’s requesting expensive vacations and jewellery, and starting to alienate him from his friends and family by lying and exaggerating situations to make her seem like a victim.

A - No. You don’t know him, and your motive just may include getting back at your colleague for her bullying rather than saving her boyfriend.

You’ve “listened for months,” but you didn’t have to.

You could’ve told her very early on that you find her duplicity offensive.

It wouldn’t have stopped her, but you wouldn’t have been an enabler by serving as her audience.

Back off now. heard enough. Say you’ve

Q - I live in a townhouse with a six-foot wood privacy fence with spaces between the slats.

As you walk or drive by, you can see into my back patio area.

I often go topless inside my house and want to hang out on my patio topless.

But I’m afraid that if someone sees me they can call it indecent exposure.

Is that going to be an issue when I’m inside my own yard?

Naked Rights