The Best College Is the One Where You Do Not Fit In
This time of year, college campuses like the one where I live fill up with high school seniors preparing to make what feels like a momentous choice. The first imperative is to find a school that they can afford, but beyond that, many students have been advised to find one where they can see themselves. Too often, they take this to mean finding a place with students like them, even students who look like them — a place where they will feel comfortable. I cannot tell you how many families have described driving many hours to a campus and having their daughter or son say something like: “We don’t need to get out. I can tell already this isn’t for me.”
“How about the info session?” the patient parent asks. “Nope.”
Choosing a college based on where you feel comfortable is a mistake. The most rewarding forms of education make you feel very uncomfortable, not least because they force you to recognize your own ignorance. Students should hope to encounter ideas and experience cultural forms that push them beyond their current opinions and tastes. Sure, revulsion is possible (and one can learn from that), but so is the discovery that your filtered ways of taking in the world had blocked out things in which you now delight. One learns from that, too.
Either way, a college education should enable you to discover capabilities you did not even know you had while deepening those that provide you with meaning and direction. To discover these capabilities is to practice freedom, the opposite of trying to figure out how to conform to the world as it is. Tomorrow the world will be different anyway. Education should help you find ways of shaping change, not just ways of coping with it.
These days, the first thing that campus visitors may notice are protests over the war in Gaza. These will be attractive to some who see in them an admirable commitment to principle and off-putting to those who see evidence of groupthink or intimidation. Any campus should be a “safe enough space,” one free of harassment and intimidation, but not one where identities and beliefs are just reinforced. That is why it is profoundly disturbing to hear of Jewish students afraid to move about because of the threat of verbal and physical abuse. And that is why it is inspiring to see Muslim and Jewish students camped out together to protest a war they think is unjust.
Refusing to conform can mean being rebellious, but it can also mean going against the grain, like being unabashedly religious in a secular institution or being the conservative voice in classes filled with progressives. I recently asked one such student if he perceived any faculty bias. “Don’t worry about me,” he replied. “My professors find me fascinating.” Some of the military veterans who have attended my liberal arts university have disrupted the easy prejudices of their progressive peers while finding themselves working in areas they had never expected to be interested in.
Over the years, I have found nonconformists to be the most interesting people to have in my classes; I have also found that they often turn out to be the people who add the greatest value to the organizations in which they work. I am thinking of Kendall, a computer science major I once had in a philosophy class who was directing an ambitious musical. When I expressed my admiration at her unlikely combination of interests, she was almost insulted by my surprise. Had I really stereotyped her as someone not interested in the arts just because she excels in science?
Or take the student activist who a couple of years after leading a demonstration to the president’s office made an appointment to meet with me. I was worried about new political demands, but she had something else in mind: getting a recommendation for law school. I could, she reminded me with a smile, write about her leadership abilities on campus. And I did.
Of course, even students who refuse to fall in with the herd should learn how to listen and speak to it and to various groups different from their own. That will help them make their way in the world, whatever school they attend, whatever their major.
Side by side, students should learn how to be full human beings, not mere appendages, and this means continually questioning what they are doing and learning from one another. “Truly speaking,” the American essayist and poet Ralph Waldo Emerson said about a century ago, “it is not instruction, but provocation, that I can
Students should learn how to be full human beings.
receive from another soul.” That is why the colleges — large public institutions or small faith-based colleges or anything in between — that nurture and respond to the energies of their students are the ones that feel most intellectually alive.
So, what makes a school the right one? It is not the prestige of a name or the campus amenities. First and foremost, it is the teachers. Great teachers help make a college great because they themselves are never done being students. Sure, there are plenty of schools filled with faculty members who think alike, who relish the bubble of fellowship in received opinion. A college can make being weird or radical into adolescent orthodoxy. These places should be avoided. By contrast, there are colleges with great teachers who practice freedom by activating wonder, a capacity for appreciation and a taste for inquiry — and who do so because they themselves seek out these broadening experiences. You can feel their own nonconformity as they try to provoke their students away from the various forms of received opinion.
Finding the right college will often mean finding these kinds of people — classmates and mentors, perpetual students who seek open-ended learning that brings joy and meaning. That is what young people should really be looking for in schools: not a place merely to fit in but a place to practice freedom in good company.