Hodge Podge

Patience is a virtue

My family says I’m patient, my friends too, I’m not so sure it’s a virtue I possess.

I think it’s more like I keep my temper from exploding outwards and just bite down hard and carry on. Some people just literally explode and boil over, now I’m not sure whether it’s good to let it out or just keep cool, some people swear by a good row to clear the air some don’t and keep quiet. Some ‘peck at one another like chickens and never quite get to boil over stage, whatever works I suppose or floats your boat or what ever adage you’d like to quote, they are all pretty good. The one thing to remember is make sure you’re equals that no one person is taking all the blame or guilt or worries for something or doing all the work.

Shouldering equal responsibility is important, be accountable for what you do or need to do.

Otherwise your partner might feel overwhelmed or like their drowning, help them in any way you can, whether it be by making sure when they come home you smooth the way for them to relax as soon as possible. Make time to spend time with them, sure it’s hard to do that but think about how your life would be if they suddenly weren’t there anymore, you’d be looking back thinking to yourself “oh I wish I’d done that or said that” or “I wish I’d gone somewhere with them” don’t leave it till it’s too late. Tomorrow is not a given as they say, don’t regret what you didn’t do, go out and have a walk together weather permitting of course or just sit together on the deck and have a coffee some time together no matter how small is a precious moment, a bubble that you can use to re-connect, it really is the small things in life that matter and don’t have to cost the earth.

I’m sure I’m not the only woman who chats to her husband over coffee first thing as we read the news together and talk about points and make plans for the day. Communication is key. If you do feel overwhelmed then tell them, they might not be able to help you that moment but then they are aware why you are tired or irritable and might be able to share a bit of your load for a while later, even if it’s for you to go soak in a hot bath without the kids knocking on the door asking for a sandwich.

Sharing your life with someone can be a beautiful thing, especially if you can make time for them, maybe miss a night out with the girls for once or the lads watch a film together at home, or play a board game together, or computer game whatever you’re into.

Take turns in cooking a meal, doesn’t have to fancy, just fun.

I’m lucky enough to say that my hubby and I have been together going in 37 years he is the best man ever and I wouldn’t swap him for anyone, he is my rock, my champion, we have a very busy life, yet we still make time to be together and after ten kids and countless house moves we’re still crazy in love. I’m one of the very lucky ones and so is he (joke).

So here I am trying to be patient as always and trying to keep everything spinning like most women, it’s a tough job but somebody’s got to do it.

As always be nice to one another, it’s really worth it.