Daddy Disney land: Mummy Devil land

This is the impression many children have in their mind. The responsibility of discipline , do’s and dont’s falls on the shoulders of mother. She is the one who is behind everyone to do the homework , household work, saying and trying desperately to make us do what is good for us. On the other hand, daddy comes home , mom treats him like a king, he can even shout at her , or insult her for no reason at all , no rules apply to him, on the contrary he can order us to do anything. This is general message small children get from our behaviour. Daddy brings chocalates , does not shout all the time , does not bother us constantly. When we are all having dinner , if child refuses to eat some vegetable mom forces to eat , dad says leave it , let him be. Scene two, when children ask permission to go out late or some picnic ,or outing overnight moms say your father will not give permission. He will not allow it. In both the cases, we give confusing mix signals. Who allows what ??? Instead we should make clear the rules set in the house clearly, and jointly. It is nothing what dad likes or does not mind, or mom does not mind but dad minds.

Joint Venture

When our children are our joint effort , why do we not make rules jointly discussing about it. If one of the parents have said something which actually is right , the other parent should support the decision of first one whether personally you like it or not.

Express your feelings effectively

When we buy very expensive , latest mobile, or anything to our kids ,it is because we love them and we want them to have what we couldn’t , or we give because we can , whatever is our reason to give them they are still not grateful, or so we think.We think that whatever we give them or do for them , they do not value or feel grateful.We price the things but we forget to teach our children value of that thing . when we give them i.g mobile we always remind them to be careful , not to loose it etc etc . we fail to convey our feelings of care for them that this mobile is the Connection , infact only direct connection to them with us when they are out side , late or far or when we want to know about them. If we tell them that dear child this mobile is the only way to contact you and ask your wellbeing so please take care in handling .