Mother’s Day: (May 13th) Is­lamic Pre­spec­tive

The Miracle - - Women -

Mother’s Day in Canada is ob­served each year on the sec­ond Sun­day in May. It is not an of­fi­cial pub­lic or statu­tory hol­i­day. Cana­di­ans have fam­ily re­unions on this day to hon­our their moth­ers and cel­e­brate moth­er­hood. Cana­di­ans also cel­e­brate Fa­ther’s Day. The date of Fa­ther’s Day in Canada is on the third Sun­day in June. Yet, the Mother’s Day, as it’s known nowa­days is a Western habit. The Western­ers spec­i­fied a day and called it the Mother’s Day. On that day sons and daugh­ters show grate­ful­ness to their moth­ers and of­fer them presents. It has be­come part of im­por­tant feasts in the West, whereas we Mus­lims have no other fes­ti­vals ex­cept the Lesser and the Greater Bairams. Any other cel­e­bra­tions are deemed mere oc­ca­sions or an­niver­saries; and this is ap­plied to the Mother’s Day. The Mother’s Day im­plies pay­ing more at­ten­tion and ex­ert­ing more ef­fort in ex­press­ing grat­i­tude to moth­ers. So there is noth­ing wrong in that. How­ever, there are two reser­va­tions worth men­tion­ing; first, con­sid­er­ing the Mother’s Day a feast; sec­ond, con­fin­ing the task of show­ing du­ti­ful­ness to moth­ers to that spe­cific day, giv­ing im­pli­ca­tion that through­out the whole year, just only one day is for show­ing love to par­ents. If such two anoma­lous points are ad­dressed, then there is noth­ing wrong in con­sid­er­ing the Mother’s Day a chance to give more care to moth­ers. Thus, we may take the Mother’s Day as a chance to lay more em­pha­sis on our duty to­wards our moth­ers, as Is­lam en­joins us, be­cause du­ti­ful­ness to par­ents is a gen­uine Is­lamic teach­ing. But Mus­lims, in do­ing that, should never de­vi­ate from the Is­lamic teach­ings, they should do things in Is­lamic man­ners, not in Western man­ners. Hence, they would not be im­i­tat­ing the non-Is­lamic habits of the West. Hence, viewed in ju­ris­tic per­spec­tive, we can say that cel­e­brat­ing the Mother’s day is con­tro­ver­sial among the con­tem­po­rary schol­ars. While a group of them con­sider it haram (un­law­ful) as a kind of blind im­i­ta­tion of the Western non-Is­lamic habits, which have no ben­e­fit for Mus­lims, another group see it ha­lal (law­ful) on con­di­tion that show­ing grat­i­tude and du­ti­ful­ness to par­ents should not be con­fined to that day only. More­over, the well known eru­dite scholar Sheikh Yusuf al-Qaradawi states: The Arab tend to blindly fol­low the Western in their cel­e­bra­tion of the Mother’s Day, with­out try­ing to un­der­stand the wis­dom be­hind in­vent­ing such an oc­ca­sion. When the Euro­pean found that chil­dren do not deal prop­erly to­wards their par­ents nor give them their due right, they re­sorted to spec­i­fy­ing an an­nual oc­ca­sion for chil­dren to rem­edy the si­t­u­a­tion. But in Is­lam, moth­ers are to be given due re­spect and love ev­ery time, not only one day a year. For ex­am­ple, when one goes out, he kisses one’s mother’s hand seek­ing her plea­sure and blessing. A Mus­lim must not al­low any gap be­tween him and his mother, he must of­fer her presents ev­ery time. This in­di­cates that Mus­lims can dis­pense with such an oc­ca­sion, the Mother’s Day. Un­like the case in the West, where it’s a vogue for some chil­dren to show in­dif­fer­ence to their moth­ers’ feel­ings, and, what’s more, it is so com­mon to see some par­ents be­ing dragged to in­fir­maries as their kids have no time for them), du­ti­ful­ness to par­ents in Is­lam, along­side with wor­ship­ping Al­lah, is a sacred duty. In this concern, Almighty Al­lah says: And We have com­mended unto man kind­ness to­ward par­ents. His mother beareth him with re­luc­tance, and bringeth him forth with re­luc­tance, and the bear­ing of him and the wean­ing of him is thirty months, till, when he at­taineth full strength and rea­cheth forty years, he saith: My Lord Arouse me that I may give thanks for the fa­vor where­with Thou hast fa­vored me and my par­ents, and that I may do right ac­cept­able unto Thee. And be gra­cious unto me In the mat­ter of my seed. Lo I have turned unto Thee re­pen­tant, and lo I am of those who sur­ren­der unto Thee).) Al-Ahqaf 46: 15) Re­flect­ing on the afore­men­tioned Qur’anic verse, we find it stress­ing both par­ents’ right, but reviewing the fol­low­ing verses we find them pay­ing spe­cial care to the mother and tack­ling the hard­ships she suf­fers in preg­nancy, fos­ter­age and rear­ing chil­dren. In this verse, Almighty Al­lah in­forms man of the debt he owes his mother since he was a fe­tus, pass­ing by the process of child­birth, in­fancy, child­hood un­til he comes of age. A child nor­mally for­gets the hard­ship which his mother un­der­went dur­ing preg­nancy. Hence Almighty Al­lah draws his at­ten­tion to such hard­ships, lay­ing em­pha­sis on her great sta­tus in Is­lam.

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