Is­lamic Man­ners


The Miracle - - Front Page - By Shaykh Ab­dul-Fat­taah Abu Ghud­dah (RA)

W hen en­ter­ing or leav­ing your house, ac­knowl­edge those in­side. Use the greet­ing of Mus­lims and the la­bel of Is­lam: ‘As­salam ‘Alãikum wa Rah­mat­ul­lahi wa Barakã­tuh; Peace and mercy of Al­lah be with you.’ Do not forego this Is­lamic greet­ing by re­plac­ing it with some­thing else, such as ‘Good Morn­ing,’ or ‘Hello.’ This greet­ing is the sign of Is­lam and the phrase that the Mes­sen­ger of Al­lah (rec­om­mended and prac­ticed. The greet­ing of Mus­lims and Is­lam is: As­salam Alaikum wa Rah­mat­ul­lahi wa Barakatuh. Peace, mercy, and bless­ing of Al­lah be upon you. The Prophet, peace be upon him, taught his faith­ful ser­vant Anas bin Ma­lik to greet his fam­ily when en­ter­ing or leav­ing his house. Imam Tir­mizi re­ported that Anas said: ‘ The Mes­sen­ger of Al­lah said to me, ‘My son, greet your fam­ily when you en­ter [your home], for that is a bless­ing for you and your fam­ily.”Qatada, a prom­i­nent fol­lower (Tabi’y), said: ‘Greet your fam­ily when you en­ter your house. They are the most wor­thy of your greet­ing.’ Al- Tir­midhi re­ported an­other Ha­dith whereby Abu Hu­raira (RA) stated that the Mes­sen­ger of Al­lah said: ‘If you join a gath­er­ing, greet them, and if you want to leave, dis­miss your­self. The first is no less im­por­tant than the sec­ond. Imam Al-Suyuti in his book ‘Prais­ing the Abyssini­ans’ cited from Abo Taleb Al-Jumahi’s Al-Tahyat the fol­low­ing: ‘Ev­ery na­tion has a way of greet­ing. Arabs will say salams. Per­sians Em­per­ors re­quire pros- trat­ing and kiss­ing the floor. The Per­sians touch their hand on the floor in front of the king. The Abyssini­ans qui­etly, gather their hands at their chest. The Ro­mans un­cover their head and bow. The Nu­bians would ges­ture as if kiss­ing the guest and then putting both hands on their face.’ All these greet­ings, ex­cept Salam, are for­bid­den. Imam Nawawi in Al-Ma­jmu said ‘It is pre­ferred to say ‘Bis­mil­lahi Ar­rah­man Ar­rahim’ when you en­ter your house or oth­ers’ houses. You ought to say Salam if you en­ter it re­gard­less whether it was empty or oc­cu­pied. You say a prayer when you go out. Imam Tir­mizi and Imam Abu Da­wood nar­rated a Ha­dith by Anas that the Prophet said: ‘If you say in the name of Al­lah, I seek help from Al­lah, no strength or means but with Al­lah. Then he will be told: you are pro­tected and saved. The Satan will leave him.


When en­ter­ing a house, make your pres­ence known to those in­side be­fore you ap­proach them. Avoid star­tling or fright­en­ing them. Do not de­scend upon them sud­denly. Abu ‘Ubãida ‘Àmer bin ‘Ab­dul­lah bin Mas’wüd (RA) said: ‘My fa­ther ‘Ab­dul­lah ibn Mas’wüd used to an­nounce his ar­rival by ad­dress­ing his fam­ily in a cor­dial tone. Imam Ah­mad ibn Han­bal said: ‘When a per­son en­ters his house, it is rec­om­mended that he/she cre­ates noise by cough­ing or tap­ping his/her shoes.’ His son Ab­dul­lah said: ‘ When re­turn­ing home from the mosque, my fa­ther used to an­nounce his ar­rival be­fore en­ter­ing, by tap­ping with his shoes or cough­ing. Bukhari and Mus­lim re­ported that the Prophet de­nounced those who un­ex­pect­edly sur­prise their fam­i­lies at night, whether re­turn­ing from travel or oth­er­wise, be­cause it makes them ap­pear to be dis­trust­ful.


If fam­ily mem­bers are rest­ing in their rooms, and you want to join them, it is ap­pro­pri­ate to ask for per­mis­sion and/or knock on the door. Oth­er­wise, you may see them in a con­di­tion that you, or they for that mat­ter, may not like. This ap­plies to your en­tire house­hold; your im­me­di­ate fam­ily or oth­er­wise. In the Muwata by ‘Ata ibn Yasãr, Imam Ma­lik nar­rated that a man asked the Mes­sen­ger of Al­lah (the fol­low­ing: ‘Should I seek per­mis­sion to en­ter my mother’s room?’ The Prophet an­swered, ‘Yes.’ The man said, ‘We live to­gether in the same house.’ The Mes­sen­ger of Al­lah(swt) said, ‘Ask for per­mis­sion to join her.’ The man ar­gued, ‘But, I am her ser­vant.’ The Prophet said, ‘Ask for per­mis­sion. Would you like to see her naked?’ The man replied, ‘No!’ The Prophet said, ‘ Then ask per­mis­sion when en­ter ing.’ Müs a the son of the com­pan­ion Talha ibn ‘Obaidil­lah said: ‘My fa­ther went to my mother’s room. I fol­lowed him as he en­tered, he turned to­ward me and pushed me down forc­ing me to sit. Then he rep­ri­manded me: ‘How dare you to en­ter with­out per­mis­sion? ’Nafi,’ the pa­tron of ‘Ab­dul­lah bin Omar said: ‘When any of Ibn Omar’s chil­dren come of age, Ibn Omar would as­sign him/her an­other room. He would not al­low any of them to en­ter his room with­out per­mis­sion. ’‘Ata bin Abi Rabãh asked Ibn ‘Ab­bas: ‘Should I seek per­mis­sion when call­ing on my two sis­ters?’ Ibn Ab­bas an­swered, ‘Yes.’ I said: ‘I am their guardian, sup­porter and provider of their needs.’ He said, ‘Would you rather see them naked?’ Then he read the Qu­ranic verse, ‘And when the chil­dren among you come of age, let them ask for per­mis­sion, as do those se­nior to them in age; thus does Al­lah make clear His signs. Al­lah is full of knowl­edge and wis­dom.’ Thus, Ibn ‘Ab­bas con­cluded that ask­ing per­mis­sion is oblig­a­tory for all peo­ple. Ibn Mas’wüd said: ‘A per­son should seek per­mis­sion when­ever en­ter­ing the room of a fa­ther, mother, brother and sis­ter.’ Jãber also said: ‘A per­son should seek per­mis­sion when­ever en­ter­ing the room of a son, a daugh­ter, a mother -even if she is old, a brother, a sis­ter, or a fa­ther.’ from the book IS­LAMIC MAN­NERS

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