Parent should school drug-dealing teacher

This past weekend I attended a large cocktail party with a group of new friends.

At this party some of the other guests were smoking marijuana and doing other illegal drugs. I recognized one of the drug users as an elementary teacher at my daughter’s school.

Because the school is large, I doubt the teacher recognized me. My daughter is not in her class. I know this teacher has tenure because she has been at the school for a long time.

When I asked my friends about what was going on, they informed me that not only was this teacher a heavy drug user but also the supplier of the group.

I would not want this person as my daughter’s teacher. I feel as if I should tell the school to do a random drug test. But with this economy, I don’t wish to facilitate anyone losing their job .

Can you give me some advice on how to handle this?

— WORRIED AND CONFUSED

I am going to assume that everything you say is absolutely correct and that this is not a case of mistaken identity.

You don’t want this teacher teaching your child. So let’s assume that the other children at your daughter’s elementary school also deserve a sober and basically law-abiding teacher.

You cannot tell the school to administer a random drug test. You can, however, tell the school exactly what you saw and ask them to investigate this and handle it according to their own standards.

My boyfriend of six months recently got a “friend request” on Facebook from a former girlfriend. They broke up nine years ago, but their relationship was serious until she cheated on him. He accepted her friend request, and she told him that she is now divorcing the man she cheated on him to be with.

We are talking about living together, but this issue feels like the elephant in the room. Am I being oversensitive? — WORRIED

Don’t move in together until you can chase the elephant out of the room. Send questions to

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