The challenges of far-off love

The number of couples in long-distance relationships (LDRs) is on the rise, owing primarily to the decrease in job security.

The factors that matter most to those in a relationship are the same whether couples live together, nearby or apart. There are, however, unique challenges faced by those in LDRs.

Brooks Aylor, at La Salle University, found four factors that set LDRs apart from others.

First, there’s an increased financial burden to maintain the relationship. Second is the difficulty defining friendships with others. Third are the high expectations that individuals create for their partner while they’re apart. Finally, Aylor feels it’s more difficult for couples who communicate from afar to assess the state of the relationship.

How might these issues be addressed?

Prioritize frequent meetings, even though this may be costly. Aylor, together with colleague Marianne Dainton, found that couples in LDRs who had frequent face-to-face contact felt more satisfied in their relationship. Establish ground rules before separating and review them regularly. Make plans and share experiences; for example, watch the same films or TV shows while apart, then share your reactions.

Finally, if you’re struggling in an LDR, take heart: in a survey of 485 individuals, Dainton found those in LDRs felt their relationship met or exceeded their expectations more often than those whose partner was nearby.

— GETTY IMAGES FILES Keep your long-distance relationship alive by prioritizing face-to-face meetings and establishing ground rules.