‘Care of a baby is a skill set’
Sleep expert and pediatrician weighs in on modern caregiving, postpartum depression
TORONTO — Any parent will recall the sleep-addled days of having a newborn, and the fears, depression and anxiety that often comes with suddenly being responsible for a vulnerable life.
Many of those moms and dads turned to the books of renowned pediatrician Dr. Harvey Karp, a U.S. sleep expert who rose to fame by igniting a swaddling movement and championing a five-step method of calming even the most colicky baby.
Karp was in Toronto recently to promote his new sleep device, the SNOO Smart Sleeper — a $1,500 high-tech bassinet that uses in-utero sensations to promote sleep. It rocks and jiggles, plays white noise and keeps babies snugly secured on their back.
It also incorporates many of Karp’s “5 S” techniques to: swaddle, shush and swing. (The others are to calm your baby while on its side or stomach, and to let them suck on a pacifier.)
Karp insists the steep cost is worth it, saying the U.S. price of $1,160 breaks down to $6 per day over six months. (It’s a little over $8 a day in Canada.)
During a break between fan meetand-greets, Karp spoke with The Canadian Press about a cultural shift in caregiving and how men suffer from postpartum depression, too.
Q A lot of what you say makes sense, and it probably was common sense at one point. But it seems like we’re now in an era where many parents are at a loss when it comes to childcare. What has happened?
A It used to be that you took care of 20 kids before you had your own kids — you had five, six, seven siblings, you had cousins, you had your next door neighbours. You felt like you intuitively knew what to do because you’d done it so many times. It is not at all intuitive taking care of a baby. It is intuitive wanting to take care of a baby, but taking care of a baby is a skill set. And so, if you haven’t learned it growing up, then all sorts of mischief happens. You read it in books or on the internet and you get so many conflicting messages and you’re approaching it intellectually, when taking care of a baby is really an experiential type of learning.
Q I hear more and more about cases of postpartum depression. Is that because of social media or is it on the rise?
A I don’t think we know that, but what we do know is it’s not on the decline. Many studies (find) postpartum depression was highly correlated to feeling exhausted. Not a great surprise, but it turned out it’s more correlated than anything else to exhaustion. And for me, that’s great news because it means if we can reduce exhaustion, we can reduce postpartum depression and anxiety. Another thing is that it’s usually not a “boo-hoo” depression. It’s usually an anxiety-filled depression, perseverative or obsessive depression. So a lot of times, it’s not really that you’re crying — it’s that you can’t turn off your mind, you can’t stop your anxiety. You feel overwhelmed, you just want to run away. (Now) we’re screening women for postpartum depression and that’s a good thing. But it’s a failure because it means we’ve waited for them to get depressed. One in seven moms will develop postpartum depression. Sometimes it’s right after delivery, sometimes it’s months later. And many men — about a quarter of their partners — will develop postpartum depression as well.
Q Why are men getting depressed? Are they sleep-deprived? Or upset their partners are depressed?
A It’s probably a mix of all of those. They are sleep-deprived, they have inordinate stresses on them — financial, emotional, etc. — they’re living in a question because they had no baby experience before so they have anxiety around that. And so, to be honest with you, pretty much anybody who is sleep-deprived will tend to be feeling lonely and depressed, it’s just kind of the biochemical change in the brain.
Q What other prevailing fads bother you?
A In the 1990s, we started backto-sleep (encouraging sleeping on the back) and that was a huge success ... we decreased infant sleep deaths (in the U.S.) from 5,500 a year to about 3,500 a year. In five years, (there was) almost 50 per cent reduction in infant sleep deaths. Do you know how much we’ve decreased it over the last 20 years? Zero. Zero per cent. We have as many babies dying a sleep death today as we did 20 years ago . ...
The reason is because of a terrible, unexpected consequence of back-to-sleep, which is bedsharing. Since we started backto-sleep we’ve doubled, tripled, quadrupled the risk that a mother is going to bed-share. And now, 70 per cent of infant sleep deaths are related to either bringing the baby in bed or sleeping with the baby on another unsafe location like a sofa or things like that.
This interview has been edited and condensed for clarity