Three takes on motherhood
They make you think about the meaning of Mother’s Day
I’m delighted to talk to charming Dr. Carol Soloway, the author of the breathtaking Amazon number 1 best seller, Gracie’s Gone, which grabs the reader on the first page and doesn’t let go.
“Every parent can relate to this book,” Carol, a chiropractor and state-appointed qualified medical examiner, told me. “We’re not surprised that this book has had astounding sales. Imagine, Bonnie, if you’re in a store and you don’t know where your child is. You turn suddenly. Imagine the terror you feel?
“Gracie’s Gone takes the reader into the home and heart of the family, whose beautiful six-yearold daughter has been abducted. During the seven days when Gracie’s missing, the family’s terror is palpable and shocking family secrets surface.
“What prompted you to write this?” I ask.
“I’ve often been invited as a keynote speaker for various charitable events. When my son told me about his involvement in Child Rescue Organization, I simply had to write this book. While it’s a short, intense story, I was able to dig deep in to the many issues of child abduction and trafficking, and to educate the reader through this story.”
Carol writes so beautifully you fall in love with Gracie’s parents: After one is divorced, and the other becomes a widow, they find each other and their newly blended family has one goal — to love and keep their children safe.
When tragedy strikes their newly blended family, the anxiety is unreal. Reading Gracie’s Gone will pull at your heart and you’ll never guess the ending; it’s a real twister. And as a parent, you’ll never look at your child the same way after reading Gracie’s Gone.
My friend, Mindy Tatz Chernoff, is such fun, proud and successful with her learned horse sense. She’s a trainer, teacher and author of From Muck to Magnificence: How Cleaning Horse Stalls Can Lead to an Astonishing Life. Mindy talks to me in a motherly tone.
“Let me count the ways that mothers of today are stressed, overworked — often unable to stop. Horses give us he space to simply be, no do, just be. In the presence of horses, neurological and physiological changes can occur within our brains, introducing a feeling of well-being. Researcher from the Institute of Heart Math have documented that horses have a large electromagnetic field, which can actually influence our own heart rhythms. A tremendous benefit from the genuine calmness horses exhibit.”
I am lulled by Mindy’s soothing voice. “And, Bonnie, horses are masters of non-predatory power. They are strong, but use their power in non-predatory ways. The judgmental nature of horses helps us in dealing with many different types of feelings and emotions. Being around a horse allows us to slow down.”
“Mindy, being in the city, I have three ceramic horses on my desk and while I look at them, they look at me.”
“Do whatever you can, Bonnie,” Mindy says, laughing.
Here is A Whole Other Magic, a charming new book, which offers the fresh, lyric ballad of a Fairy Godmother on a mission to restore childhood wonder to a generation of screen-weary kids.
I speak with author Gigi Jobb, who hails from longtime Manitoulin residents Claire and Vi Wilson of Gore Bay and now brings her own four children annually to rekindle that same wonder at the heritage site of her parents Trish and Perry Wilson on Tobacco Lake.
Gigi’s enthusiastic: “Bonnie, we need to vivify imagination, we want fantasy and wonder to live inside our children. The problem with video games rattling around in their heads is that they become saturated with that content, that tempo; which is jerky, stilting, compulsive. We’re seeing now how early childhood screen exposure actually changes the shape and the wiring of our children’s brains,” Gigi says.
“As a teacher and poet, I see how rhythmic verse likewise shapes and stimulates — but it is formative in a wholesome, harmonious way. Remember the power and purpose that nursery rhymes once served? Which is largely lost, and fallen from our culture? This book has been intentionally crafted with rhythmic and rhyming verse that will penetrate a child’s imagination and enlarge their capacity for wonderment. It rumbles along at the subconscious level, long after the reading is done.
“Most importantly, it becomes fodder for deep play and enriches the capacity to generate meaningful interior monologues.”
The illustrations, too, have been a labour of love by American artist Alisa Day Reeves, and are crafted to delight and invite. “I saw one painting by Alisa Day Reeves and knew she was the one to illustrate the book. I messaged her a ‘downon-one-knee’ proposal, and we became a team.”
Carol, Mindy and Gigi give us much to think about. How about these three authors and their different take and approach to motherhood and caring.
Also, there’s Celebrating Her Story: Portraits of Working Mothers, which is the amazing artwork of Madonna Aeschlimann, at the Debajehmujig Creation Centre in Manitowaning. Open every day this summer.
I am charmed. As we keep learning and loving.
Happy Mother’s Day, my beloved readers.
Author Ginette Jobb, telling the story of her new book, Here is A Whole Other Magic. The book counters the internet mentality with prose and poems.
Mindy Tatz Chernoff is a trainer, teacher and author of From Muck to Magnificence: How Cleaning Horse Stalls Can Lead to an Astonishing Life.