Find your backbone when wife cuts you off
When I call my wife’s office to talk to her, she’s always “out.”
It seems to me like her staff covers for her, so I don’t leave any message. We’ve been together a long time, but there’s no affection towards me at all, just the basic kiss. I’ve tried to talk to her about it, but she gets her back up, gets angry and picks a fight. There’s no sex life at all. Any suggestions? Hopeless Find your backbone and make a decision about what you want, whether it’s to work out the reason for the distance between you, or to separate. Those are the two options, if you dislike the current situation — and you should. She’s cut you off from communication as well as sex. It’s hard to believe you have no clue whatsoever about why she’s avoiding you, even to the point of having her staff block you from talking to her. If you want to make an effort, and she’s willing, insist on going to counselling together. Or, go alone to try and plumb how this standoff started. If these attempts fail, or she’s not interested, get to a lawyer to learn your rights and responsibilities if and when you split. Then tell her, after you’re informed, how you expect to proceed towards divorce. She’ll listen then. My former employer fired me and I started my own business, which is similar to his. He’s now telling my customers lies about my business practices. It’s affecting my business somewhat, but I’m not too worried as I’ve been in the industry many years. But I’m wondering what to do. Should I let it unfold or seek legal counsel? Underhanded Dealings It’s wise to seek advice on business matters that can affect your reputation and your income. It won’t take many billable hours to know where you stand. Unless you signed a non-compete clause with this former employer, he’s libeling you with his lies. If any loss of income or respect in your field can be proven, you’d be able to sue him for damages. A warning letter from a lawyer would put him on notice that he’s being watched. That should stop him, without a lawsuit. Our niece, 33 (my husband’s sister’s daughter) is soon marrying for the second time. Is there any rule, protocol, etc. with regards to having to gift again when we already did so for her first marriage? Or to contribute to her socalled “honeymoon” fund?
Other issues affecting our opinion: her general lack of respect to us. She’s been our houseguest several times, has never thanked us, never acknowledged us at Christmas or sent condolences when my brother passed away at a young age. So, there’s also a lack of good will on my part. Am I Harsh, Unfair?
For your husband’s sake, and relations with his sister, rise above this niece’s previous thoughtlessness (immaturity?). But you can keep your gift modest.
Give what you can afford, but give something. It’s still a hopeful union with a second chance at happiness for a family member. Tip of the day When there’s no communication, no sex, it’s time to make a decision.