He asked me if I snored
And the questions just kept on coming.
Olivia is a 30-year-old smallbusiness owner who lives in Scarborough. She says, “My roommate described me as ‘upscale and classy’ and I think that kind of fits. I like to look ‘put together’ at all costs. I spend hours getting ready. I genuinely enjoy making sure my hair and makeup are flawless.”
Olivia says she is “loving, caring and someone who tries to check in often with others.” But she can also be “way too sensitive. I am known to overthink things and cry about them later. I don’t take criticism well, especially if it’s about how I look or act.”
Olivia likes doing fitness classes and hot yoga. She says, “I’m a pretty social person, so I’m usually open to doing whatever other people want … I like putting myself out there.”
I’ve been “officially” single for a year and a half. I actually really enjoy first dates. The first three people I met online turned into mini-relationships, lasting about three months each. Each one ended because the guy wasn’t ready to be in something serious. A lot of people want companionship without the commitment.
I’m looking for someone who is well-established and has their life together! A lot of 30somethings do not, so I tend to date older. I appreciate someone who looks put together and shows a sense of class through their style.
I need someone active and someone who doesn’t expect me to cook — I’m so bad at it! I want someone to “do” life with, not just “be with” in life.
I met Chad on an app. Truthfully, I was just kind of swiping. I appreciated that he wanted to chat on the phone after we had been messaging back and forth for a bit. He said he wanted to see if we clicked, because he didn’t want to waste anyone’s time. To me, that showed maturity. It was a surprisingly easy, and long, conversation. We decided to meet up the following day. He texted me when he was a few minutes away from the bar and texted me when he got there, even though he was early. I appreciated that. I arrived just after Chad did. There was some resemblance to his photos, but he was better-looking in his profile. His date outfit looked like he didn’t put any effort into it. Baggy jeans; hiking boots. He had no style.
I knew about five minutes in that I was not attracted to Chad. I was also thrown off by his energy. We weren’t vibing at all, but I smiled and chatted politely. There was just something “off” about him that I hadn’t picked up on the night before. I felt like there suddenly wasn’t a ton to talk about and that our real-life conversation was … basic. He seemed nervous, maybe. I drank my drink quickly and didn’t order another one, but wasn’t opposed to going for a walk when Chad suggested it. He paid for our drinks.
Chad seemed to relax a bit outside of the bar and he started asking me questions. Unfortunately, the questions didn’t stop. It was like he had a checklist in his head that he was going through. Also, some of his questions were too personal or just rude. He said he hates cats after I told him that I had one. He asked me if I snored. I started thinking that I needed to come up with an excuse to leave, but I’m a bad liar!
When I tried to save the conversation by asking questions that were more appropriate for a first date, he would answer briefly but not elaborate and then ask me questions again. At one point, he fully analyzed my body, and then went on to comment on my teeth and hair. I was taken aback and felt so selfconscious. Just no!
He volunteered to walk me to my car, but I declined. He went in for a hug and said he’d had a nice time, and I think my response was “OK, see you later!”
I don’t know. He showed up, he texted me that he was on his way and that he had arrived, he was early, he paid for my drink and he offered to walk me to my car, which are all nice things that usually win someone points with me. His comments and overall creepy vibe are what brings his score down. He didn’t fit what I was looking for, but I guess I appreciate the effort.
Olivia rates her date (out of 10): 5