Expand your brain, build emotional strength
Learning something new a key factor to building the resiliency to weather setbacks, experts say
Eight years ago, while working as an assistant prosecutor in Cleveland, Gayle Williams-Byers was in the throes of a serial killer case when she decided to take horseback riding lessons.
This summer, in the midst of the coronavirus pandemic, Williams-Byers, 46, now a municipal court judge, started free online classes in American Sign Language offered by Gallaudet University in Washington. She also took a webinar in labour trafficking. In recent years, she has enrolled in a variety of classes and workshops, including one on how to get a commercial driver’s licence — not something she plans to act on any time soon.
“I don’t have a reason to use these things in my professional life, but learning helps me to focus better,” WilliamsByers said. “It’s also something that I have some control over. I take classes in subjects I am just wildly interested in learning about. When I expand my brain, my wingspan is greater. It lets you get a little higher, to get above the headwinds.”
Her quest to understand something new is an example of what many career coaches, authors and experts view as a key factor to building the resilience necessary to weather setbacks and navigate life’s volatility.
The theory: To deal effectively with change, it helps to be engaged in changing yourself. “One of the things that makes us resilient is that when we see a challenge and when we face a struggle, we engage with it rather than shut down,” said Simon Sinek, author of “The Infinite Game” and “Start With Why.”
“What I have learned from my career is that something I learned over here helps me over there,” he said. “Even if I don’t know that is happening, any kind of learning benefits all aspects of life.”
Embrace your passions
Sinek, for instance, is a dance lover. “My dancer friends kept telling me I should take classes, and it would help me and my love of the medium. I begrudgingly agreed and I took some basic ballet classes.”
Even though it was for personal enrichment, those classes helped his developing work as a public speaker. “My posture is much better,” he said. “I move more effortlessly across the stage from my hips instead of my shoulders.”
When you’re learning, your viewpoint changes and you spot connections that you never noticed before. “Resilience is about being adaptable in a variety of different circumstances,” said Dorie Clark, who teaches executive education at Duke University’s Fuqua School of Business and wrote “Reinventing You.”
“It is a combination of being able to pick yourself up when there are setbacks, but also it is about having the kind of cross-training necessary to be flexible in an uncertain world where we don’t know what is around the corner,” Clark said.
Expect a learning curve
This all may require pushing yourself — not the easiest of tasks in times of crisis. “If they are relatively senior professionals, it has been years, or decades, since they have not been good at something and it can be enormously psychologically stressful to have to face that,” Clark said. “Inevitably, when you are in the early stages of learning something you haven’t done before, you are probably going to be bad at it — at least not very good.”
Two years ago, Clark entered a program to train as a musical theatre lyricist. “People in this program have master’s degrees in musical theatre writing,” she said. “At first, having to surround myself with people who truly had exponentially more expertise was humiliating on a regular basis, but it was invigorating and inspiring.”
Stay curious
Being resilient has a lot to do with perspective. “People who commit themselves to a life of learning show up with curiosity,” Sinek said. “They show up with interest. They show up with a student’s mindset. You don’t have to be curious about everything. You have to be curious about some things.”
Those who routinely and consciously engage in learning become more confident about their ability to figure things out once a crisis hits, according to Beverly Jones, an executive career coach and author of “Think Like an Entrepreneur, Act Like a CEO.”
“Each time they hit a bump, they spend less time lamenting and quickly turn to determining what they must learn in order to climb out of the hole,” Jones said.
Moreover, learners develop a more optimistic mindset, which helps them jump into action, according to Jones. “In part, this is because each time you become aware of learning something new, it feels like a victory,” Jones said. “You maintain the positivity that is a key to resilience.”
Tailor your learning
An important element to remember is that people learn in different ways, Sinek said. “I can’t read a book a week. I learn by having conversations. I like talking to people who know more than me about any particular subject. I love peppering them with questions. And I love trying to say back in my own words what I think they are telling me to see if I understand it.”
Right now, with his speaking engagements on hold, Sinek is studying kintsugi, the Japanese art of putting broken pottery pieces back together with epoxy and a painted gold solution that highlights the breaks. The concept: By accepting blemishes and flaws, you can produce an even sturdier, more striking, piece of art. On a deeper level, it functions as a symbol of the human experience.
For one thing, it requires patience. “It turns out the epoxy dries slowly,” Sinek said. “If you do all the pieces at once, it all just falls apart again. I want to be done with my project and move on to the next. I can’t. I have to stick one piece and hold it for an uncomfortable amount of time and then let it sit for 24 hours.”
There are myriad paths to learning, from taking part in a free online class to reading a nonfiction book, watching a documentary and immersing oneself in a grade-free educational experience.
Chip Conley, 59, for example, founded the Modern Elder Academy in Baja, Mexico, a group dedicated to mid-life learning.
The academy’s core curriculum is based on helping people move from a fixed to a growth mindset in mid-life and beyond, according to Conley. “Those with a fixed mindset define success as winning, which becomes problematic when they face difficult circumstances,” he said. “Those with a growth mindset define success as learning. They’re not trying to prove themselves, but instead improve themselves, so they get less focused on the results and more focused on the journey.”
At the academy, options include collaborative bread baking, improv comedy, surfing or yoga for newbies, and penning of poems to offer to your cohort.
Academic and online options
There are also educational opportunities for non-traditional students at some top universities through academic or yearlong programs for executives and other professionals. Students can audit classes, attend lectures, and work on projects with graduate and undergraduate students.
These include the Stanford Distinguished Careers Institute, Harvard’s Advanced Leadership Initiative, the University of Notre Dame’s Inspired Leadership Initiative, the University of Minnesota’s Advanced Careers Initiative and the University of Texas at Austin, which offers the Tower Fellows Program.
Three years ago, Glenn Lowenstein, 60, was ready for a new challenge. The Houston resident had sold Lionstone Investments, the real estate investment company he founded in 2001, to Ameriprise. “It was a hard decision,” he said. “The business had been my dream, and then I lived the reality of it for 20 years and all of a sudden there was a void. It was scary. When there is nothing in front of you, that’s where the resiliency has to come in.”
His solution was to return to campus. Two years ago, he was a Towers fellow. As a fellow, he enrolled in an advanced graduate philosophy seminar. “It was way above my head,” he said. “I would try my hardest to follow every single word of the conversation. It was fascinating to me the way the graduate students articulated their arguments. It was super esoteric stuff, but I would walk out” and think, “Wow, I am learning a new way to communicate here.”
The best part, though, was his time on campus: “It was so cool to be in an environment where I wasn’t the expert,” he said. “My aim is to keep my mind and body and spirit healthy. I don’t think you can do that without learning.”
For those who don’t have the time or money for a high-level fellowship or university program, there are myriad paths to learning. Free or reasonably priced online classes are available through sites like Coursera, EdX, The Great Courses, LinkedIn Learning, MasterClass, Skillshare, TED Talks and Udemy.
Other options (online these days) are adult education centres, local libraries, community colleges, universities and Osher Lifelong Learning Institutes. One Day University, a subscription service, offers five livestreaming lectures a week and recorded talks.
To deal effectively with change, it helps to be engaged in changing yourself