Readers weigh in on chronic lateness
DEAR READERS: I recently ran a question from “Prompt In-Law,” who reported that her beloved daughter-inlaw was chronically late. In my answer, I reflected on this common annoyance. I suggested that the MIL should speak with her frankly about it, continue with their on-time plans and take separate transportation to avoid frustration.
I’ve received hundreds of responses to this letter. With the holiday season approaching, I thought I would share readers’ experiences. Here is a sampling:
DEAR AMY: I used to run 20 to 30 minutes late for everything. I rationalized that I was just busy. One day, a close and brave friend confronted me when I was late for lunch.
“I cherish our time together, but your chronic tardiness is rude and beneath you,” he said. “And the unavoidable conclusion is that you think your time is more valuable than mine. Please think about it.”
I did, and although it took some time to break habits, I changed ... to my great benefit. DEAR AMY: My ex-husband was always late to social functions, and he’d make a scene by loudly blaming me to the other guests.
Since we had two vehicles, I started departing on time in the car, and he got to drive up late in the ratty old pick-up truck. It soon broke him of his chronic lateness. DEAR AMY: I also have a chronically late relative: my sister. In 60-plus years, good old, “Slow-Stop-and-Reverse” hasn’t changed.
But I have learned never to ask her to bring the appetizers. DEAR AMY: We were friends with a couple who were always late, so when I invited them to dinner, I told them to come an hour before I planned to start serving.
For once in their lives, they were on time — and I was in the shower!
— TOM IN WINTER PARK
— TOLERATING LATENESS NOW