Okay folks: Gather one and all

My late mother was given a ‘great opportunity.’ Her grandfather who wanted to ensure ‘his girls’ had all the advantages made it possible for her to attend a ladies boarding school for her high school years. Today we would say he was a feminist, although he thought of himself as a parent. Although she always insisted that she was well educated and the experience was extraordinary, she many times felt a profound sense of loneliness. She missed the farm, the animals, the gatherings of family and even the chores.

Undaunted she made a plan. She gathered some of the other likeminded girls and with the encouragement of the school they had weekend all-girl socials where they laughed, danced, played music and, as she said, messed up the common room kitchen. Perhaps that early experience lead to her strong desire to be proactively inclusive, a tradition that she encouraged me to follow.

But you know this tradition goes back multiple generations. Grandpapa was a great gatherer, as were his father and mother before him. I remember him saying that loneliness is so absolutely unnecessary if we make an effort to ensure people around us are included, encouraged, nurtured and supported. Today, as then, it is defined as “a sense of emptiness, yearning, distress and solitude resulting from inadequate quantity or quality of social relationships.”

Humans are social creatures by nature. The four pillars of health are physical, psychological, social and spiritual wellness. All have an equal impact. All must be in balance to be truly well.

Last week I gave you lists of activities – possibilities for you to venture out away from the warm blanket, couch and remote. I alluded to my habit of collecting people to be travelling companions in these adventures. Well, that is what I am suggesting you consider. Our rural area has so many advantages and we know our neighbours. We know who has experienced a loss, who is alone, who needs to be included. Now we need to take that data and be proactive.

Not that long ago we made a special ethnic food treat. We placed it in little dollar store tins and made deliveries to folks we knew would enjoy this taste of the past. At each stop we made a suggestion about an upcoming activity or event. We were pleasantly surprised when each recipient said, “Yes, I’d like to attend” or “Yes, I’d so love to do that.” Now we are richly blessed as we will have ‘parties’ that will include laughter and joy for us that includes our friends and neighbours. Sure, we have a vehicle and can drive. Most of our ‘guests’ do not have that option.

This joyous season has challenges for so many. The most critical one is loneliness. That psychological construct is a profound health and wellness concern. A simple smile, a warm handshake a sincere hug can have a significant impact.

The Saint Mary’s Bay Community Centre Society’s Vice Chair, Rev. Thomas Haynes-Payton has made combating loneliness a crusade. He wants to ensure all are included. The great equalizer is laughter, companionship and activity. Hence on Friday, Nov. 23 (snow date Nov. 30) at the North Range Hall there is a free public square and folk dance evening from 7 to 9 p.m. He insists no one is left behind –come participate or watch and enjoy. All ages, families, and abilities are welcome. As a special treat Judy Trimper and the Fundy Steppers will be demonstrating line dancing. The last one was so successful that he is anticipating a magnificent turn out! Gather your children, you neighbours and friends. Fill up your car or truck! If you like and I know Thomas will encourage you to sing along! He even let me sing and my cat hides when I try to carry a tune.

“Dance in a square – make a circle of friends!” See ya there!