Don’t turn back on annoying family Spears’ ...Baby One More Time remains an iconic launch point as it turns 20
DEAR MISS LONELYHEARTS: Being home for Christmas and New Year’s was suffocating. I had a lousy Christmas with my family. I may love them, but I really don’t like them right now. I’ve been away at university, living in residence, and I like it there better.
My parents are deeply religious, and the kids left in the nest are following exactly what mommy and daddy say and believe. At Christmas and New Year’s, my aunt and uncle — a pair of dinosaurs — kept asking when I’d be finished schooling.
My uncle had the nerve to ask when I’d move back to Manitoba so I could “use my medical skills to be of some use to the province.” Small-minded people like him who’ve never been anywhere make me furious.
My aunt asked a lot of personal questions. She’s afraid I’ll fall in love with a guy at university, marry him and never come back to the family.
The women in my family had no careers — the men paid for everything and they stayed home to raise the kids. Good for them! I don’t want to do that.
I’m writing to you while I fly back home where I’ll be able to finally breathe again. How do I handle this snoopy, pushy, religious family with their insinuations and outright criticism of my life?
— Frustrated Beyond Belief,
In the Sky Over Ontario Dear Frustrated: You don’t have to “handle” them. Just carry on as if they have no power over you. Since your mom doesn’t have a job outside the home, the only one who has power over you at this point is your dad, who’s paying for your education. Look for ways to alleviate some of your father’s financial burden, thereby loosening the strings that tie you to him.
As for not moving back, you can apply for jobs in Ontario, where you can land in-person interviews more easily.
Once you are financially independent, nobody can put pressure on you, unless you allow it.
Do you have a part-time job? Have you applied for any awards or scholarships? Know anything about student loans? This would be a good time to talk to a school counsellor about your family problems and get some career advice.
Email your family every two weeks and emphasize the positive aspects of university life and how much you are studying. No need to turn your back on them because you have a different lifestyle than they do.
They love you and you love them, even though you feel like they are meddling old-world dinosaurs. Maybe they are, but they’re your dinosaurs. T’S the album that launched one of the biggest pop stars of the 21st century. ...Baby One More Time celebrated its 20th anniversary on Jan. 12, and though it has only been two decades, it’s hard to remember a time without Britney Spears.
A little-known teenager with Bible Belt roots and credits on Star Search and as a Mouseketeer, Spears was catapulted to international fame and pop superstardom thanks to her debut album.
The album’s eponymous single and its corresponding video are the stuff of legend, with a song that brings people together and takes you back to where you were in life when you first discovered Spears, on the cusp of becoming a major mainstream artist.
While the album as a whole is certainly of its time (see E-Mail My Heart), its lead singles ...Baby One More Time, Sometimes and (You Drive Me) Crazy are classics that are both timeless and crucial pieces of pop culture history that could be pulled out of a time capsule for Y2K.
The album launched more than just one single star — with Spears, it ushered in an entire era of everything from pop royalty rankings to paparazzi chaos and changing attitudes about womanhood and mental illness. So much that we came to know and talk about in pop music and the surrounding tabloid fodder was influenced in part by Spears.
She has one of the most consistent careers, despite many tumultuous years in the spotlight that had fans worried that she might not pull through. Spears was caught in a downward spiral, having gone through a troubled marriage and divorce with Kevin Federline, becoming
Ia mother of two in the spotlight before turning 25, shaving her head, being put under the conservatorship of her father and a lawyer and being chased by the paparazzi through all of it.
But she has not only pulled through, she’s pulled herself back up to a place where she’s on top in her own realm and still making music, though she’s currently on a work hiatus because of her father’s illness. She is now celebrated where she was once torn down, becoming a beacon of resilience for her fans around the world.
Britney Spears is celebrated where she was once torn down.