Well-rounded life is key

China Daily (Hong Kong) - - CHINA -

the mother of a fifth­grade stu­dent in Bei­jing

Huang Hui,

Ial­ways tell my son that achiev­ing av­er­age scores in classes is fine. He does not have to be one of the top scor­ers in his class or at­tend after-school tu­tor­ing classes to help boost his aca­demic per­for­mance.

I think the most im­por­tant thing for him in his child­hood is to be a child, have fun, ex­er­cise and stay healthy.

I was born in the 1980s and had to study hard to make sure I could go to a good univer­sity and even­tu­ally find a high-pay­ing job. But un­like me, my son is for­tu­nate enough to be born at a time when he does not need to worry about food or clothes.

I do not want my son to re­peat what I have gone through, study­ing at ev­ery pos­si­ble hour and not be­ing able to en­joy child­hood.

I think what’s more im­por­tant than aca­demic per­for­mance is for him to have hob­bies, find some­thing he is pas­sion­ate about and de­velop a good char­ac­ter, so he knows how to com­mu­ni­cate with oth­ers and deal with dif­fi­cul­ties.

Un­like some par­ents who make busy plans for their chil­dren to at­tend dif­fer­ent ex­pen­sive tu­tor­ing classes, I would rather spend the money to take him to travel and let him see the world.

When par­ents do all the heavy lift­ing for their chil­dren, they will lose the abil­ity to be in­de­pen­dent.

For some par­ents, the rea­son for their ob­ses­sion with good grades for their chil­dren is that they were un­able to be top scor­ers them­selves.

I do feel pres­sure from other par­ents to send my son to tu­tor­ing classes, but I need to re­mind my­self that when he is buried in end­less home­work at an early age, he might lose all in­ter­est in learn­ing when he grows up.

Go­ing to a good univer­sity is not the fi­nal goal in life. He needs to form good habits and hob­bies so that when the aca­demic bur­den lessens at univer­sity, he will not spend all his spare time play­ing video games.

Huang Hui spoke with Zou Shuo

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