‘Pos­i­tive wrecks’ have goals but lack the nec­es­sary mo­ti­va­tion

Global Times – Metro Shanghai - - FRONT PAGE - By Qi Xi­jia

At 6 am I was awo­ken by my alarm. I ex­tended my arm look­ing for the phone, turned it off and rolled to the other side of the bed and con­tin­ued to sleep. This was the third alarm I turned off that morn­ing; I kept telling my­self I would get up at the next alarm and go to the gym.

How­ever, like every morn­ing, my body and my mind do not get along well with each other. So in fact I never get up un­til I have to and I rarely go to the gym any­more.

If you set goals but fail to de­liver, you are most prob­a­bly what the Chi­nese call a Jiji Feiren (“pos­i­tive wreck”), a new self-mock­ery term cre­ated by Chi­nese ne­ti­zens to de­fine those who are pos­i­tive in spirit but lag­ging be­hind in mo­ti­va­tion.

It is made up of two word Jiji and Feiren that have op­po­site mean­ings in Chi­nese. The first word means ac­tive while the lat­ter means deca­dent. The com­bi­na­tion of the two words is a sort of satire.

Jiji and Feiren are like twins that al­ways go handin-hand ev­ery­where but also al­ways fight. To­gether, they bring you a fake, tem­po­rary eu­pho­ria that you can be bet­ter, slim­mer or more knowl­edge­able, but these self-prom­ises soon fade into dis­ap­point­ment and guilt af­ter you re­al­ize that your gym card has al­ready ex­pired and you are still strug­gling with the very first word on your English vo­cab­u­lary book, which iron­i­cally hap­pens to be “aban­don.”

Feiren of­ten tri­umphs over Jiji. In the past, I thought I re­ally wanted to achieve cer­tain goals, like los­ing weight and im­prov­ing my English. But the truth is I don’t ac­tu­ally want those things that badly. Set­ting such pos­i­tive goals only makes me feel bet­ter for a lit­tle while. But in the long run, I don’t re­ally care.

Even­tu­ally, I will just set new “per­fect goals” to fill up the empti­ness in my heart.

My cur­rent wish-list is so long that I no longer re­mem­ber what my orig­i­nal goals were.

Ask your­self, what do you re­ally want? How ea­ger are you to ob­tain it? And how much are you will­ing to pay for it? If the an­swers are pos­i­tive, then stick to just one goal at a time and break it down into pieces.

I spent some time go­ing over my goals and re­al­ized that many of my goals are al­most im­pos­si­ble for me to com­plete. For ex­am­ple, los­ing 5 kilo­grams every month re­quires me get­ting up at 6 every morn­ing, which I can’t do. So how about just 3 kilo­grams, which means I can sleep un­til 7 am? It may take a longer time, but it is a more doable method.

All you need to do is to put your goals into ac­tion and al­low no ex­cuses. Be­lieve me, once you are com­mit­ted it will be im­pos­si­ble to tear you apart from your goal. With only half a year left for 2018, do you want to be a wreck or a win­ner by

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