Overcoming failure

EVERY day, every week, every month and year, we are always on a mission. We fight, trying to get somewhere or to do something in our lives, but as usual we are never able to accomplish everything.

Nothing hurts more than not being able to achieve an aimed goal, especially when you work very hard towards it every day. Like what happens when you prepare yourself for exams, you write them and cross your fingers in prayer.

Then when results come, they tell you otherwise. It’s a rollercoaster of emotions that come at that, you become anxious as to what the future holds and at times, we even doubt that we were made for what we are doing.

I have been there, and if you are here going through something similar then I am happy for you because you will have me to share this journey with and at least in that way the burden will be lighter and accomplishable.

Failure is a curable disease, that can only be overcome by those willing to wait as much as possible, until the designated time comes. Because the truth is, we can try nine times out of ten, until that moment comes, we will keep failing. Yes, sometimes the efforts we put in count as well but most importantly, the schedule also matters.

When it comes to our dreams, there is a lot of failure that we put up with. And, every time such happens, we question our visions and choices. We wonder if we are on the right path or not. We ask ourselves whether we are destined to the right direction. You may be at school, decide on the courses you want to take, and find that you will give it your best shot, atleast that is what you think and unfortunately, fail.

Now you will start wondering whether you picked the right field. It may be at work, where you applied for a job and get it, while performing the duties you have been employed for, your “boss” tells you that you are not performing accordingly. Definitely, you will doubt what you are doing, you will feel as though you are not worthy of any goodness. At times, it feels as though giving up is the best option. One can let go of everything just because of failure.

CAPABILITIES

I wonder to myself now that, does failure really define our capabilities? Should it tell us what and who we are? I mean just because we failed, it does not mean that we are failures now, or does it. Well I stand to be corrected after all, but seriously we can never be defined by obstacles that we can overcome. One thing I will assure you of is that, to each one of us is power, ‘ ability to do work.’ No matter what results we get every time we work, they do not define our capabilities.

Our Creator assured us that we have been loved and for that reason, we are more than conquerors, since he gives us strength to do all things. Our duty now is to ensure that we never let doubt take control of our lives. Yes, what we get is not what we always want, but that is no reason to look down upon ourselves.

Every successful human out there will tell you that, “press on... be patient... do not give up... keep trying”, and when you analyse these words, they simplify to, “never stop until you have achieved!” We all need to have this motto in our lives, this one that will push us to work even harder every day, and the one that will wake us up to strive and run along even when the going is tough.

The only way in which we can overcome failure, is through ‘ believing’ that in spite the results, we can still do it. Believing in our dreams and having the element of trusting that after all has happened, we will be what we were destined to be. Well, I just talked about destiny right and that is precisely what I want to get into.

You know each one of us have been destined for different purposes. We have been formed to be and do what we each have been called for as per the uniqueness of our skills. Sometimes you will try doing something and fail so many times. This does not guarantee that you are a failure but it can simply show that you actually have not been called for what you are doing. After you realise that you have invested so much but still you are not achieving as per you should, do not force matters. Some things require us to forgone not because we are foolish and weak, but saving our energy to invest in the right places.

OVERCOME

We overcome failure in so many ways : trying harder through different attempts and approaches or finding something better to replace or substitute what keeps bringing us down.

The words we say to ourselves everyday are weapons, they either give us a chance to defeat failure and open doors of success or they break us down and we become preys to depression that suppresses us until we die.

The choice is made by you as an individual, you decide what you want to be, no matter how much they can encourage or discourage you, only you have the best excuse, that can only be heard and sound best to you. At the end of it all failure cannot be a means to a dead end, it is up to you whether you make it a starting point of something better, let it open your eyes, see better things and find other alternatives. The aim is not to prove a point to others, but it is to matter, be productive and leave this world having done it all, it is the finish line that determines it all.

Nay, in all these things learn to boost your strength, always find a lesson in all failures, teach yourself to embrace these you cannot do because those things can never label you as a nobody! After all, you are bigger than the failures you have seen, and so much better than those you are yet to go through. Whatever you find a definition of yourself in , it cannot be failure. Never let it own you but be above it, just overcome it and you will always come out stronger in that sense .