Stop posting your personal problems on social media

THIS new generation composes of certain elements that were used for mere entertainment in plays and even stories back in the old days, such as over- exaggeration and absurdity.

These certain elements seem to trend through the new generation of children growing up in the present generation. Many teens want a sort of attention without making any effort to ear n it.

They rather use the method of ‘ ignore and wait’ longing for anyone to willingly come up to them and give them that attention as if they were the most important person in the world.

Well, there’s a problem with that.

Many problems, actually, and here’s what these problems are.

What is the method of ‘ ignore and wait’

You may wonder what the heck this method of ‘ ignore and wait’ is. Well, it is a well- used practise where someone waits for a person, or either one of specific people, to take notice of their current state without stepping up and con fronting those certain persons their self.

If that wasn’t brief enough, then I’ ll break it down; someone who wants attention because they believe these certain persons are obligated to give it to them without being asked to do so. No one is going to speak up to someone when they are unaware of the situation, so they are not going to fall into the trench that person put their self in. When you have a problem with your friends, you’re supposed to confront them and talk it out, but some people decide to ignore their friends and wait for someone to confront them. That’s not how life works; if you got something to say then say it directly to them, not on social media. That’s hella shady to do, especially indirectly. Not only does this ‘ ignore and wait’ technique hurt yourself in the process by not talking to anyone, especially those you have to talk about the issue, but it, at most times, makes the situation worse by involving others when you post publicly instead of privately and directly making a confrontation. Avoiding confrontation only strengthens that person’s argument on saying that people don’t care about them, but really that person does not care enough about others, because how can you want to be cared for when you don’t put that same care on others? Did I mention this particular method has several stages?

First stage: Pushing people away

Does this sound familiar? If you have not figured it out already I will be referring to the ‘ ignore and wait’ section. We briefly explained the foundation of this, but we did not directly mention this. The first stage of ‘ ignore and wait’ is pushing people away. When you have a personal problem, or a problem with your friends you don’t push them away. That’s how you spark conflict and allow people to walk out the door. One expects their friend( s) to fix their problem for them, rather than solve their own issues. These friends that are pushed away either had experience and are tired of it, or they aren’t gonna deal with it in the first place when they are ignored, so they leave and go on with their lives. No one has time for this childish act if you aren’t going to confront things yourself. Your friends aren’t going to deal with you.

Second sta ge: Over e xaggera

Honestly, if you have an issue then it better be realistic. If you are upset about a small issue that should not even be bothered to be upset too much about, then there is no reason to even depend on your friends cheering you up or even making this issue theirs as well. There is no reason in the first place to force an issue upon other friends. By realistic, that means if you are called out for doing something you’re not very good at, but you believe you’re good at it, then just don’t. You do not even have or are obligated to present yourself in front of everyone only to have a negative outcome that you end up overreacting to. Even if people don’t call you out they may only be be

ing nice. There is no reason at all to be sensitive, because life is not going to going soft on you. You have no excuse when you are crying over what you did to yourself. In many cases, when a friend does try to ask that someone if they’re okay they brush it off and say they’re ‘ fine’. If you’re known to do that, then stop right there cowboy, because no one is gonna give a heck to comfort you.

Stage three: Indirect’s on social media

This stage is basically the whole point of the article via the title, no? Don’t post your personal issues on social media if it is dissing someone who isn’t even at fault, or who you are making look like the bad guy and you the victim. Especially the way you post it depending where. Like, snapchat for example; if someone really is serious about the situation they would not lower the timer on snapchat. How do they expect others to say something if there’s no time to read it? Nobody has time to pause the damn post to read a waste of posts that basically words the same thought differently, yet should not even be put up for everyone to view anyways. People may not realise it, but this can hurt people when they are well aware they are being talked about even if it is not specific. And don’t even apologise indirectly on social media neither. That’s a cowardly thing to do to make yourself look like the good person to everyone else. As stated earlier on, posting indirects publicly will not help solve your problem and it can become worse by allowing other people to become involved; not only will other friends question you about your public posts, but by gossiping with them and telling others who you are having problems with you automatically involve them. This immediately makes the situation dragged out even more than it was before; for example, getting another friend into your issue( s) can cause them to make indirects of their own, which only drags it out and makes it a bigger deal than it really is. Instead, people need to grow the fuck up and quit posting their personal problems online. If reading this was not clear enough to put anyone in their right mind, then I don’t k n o w what other cure there is for you lost souls. When you get dramatic and over exaggerate situations it drives people away. People make themselves selfish when they expect others to kneel and ask for your hand to kiss and comfort. No one is going to bow down to you.

Here’s a little life lesson: If you constantly exaggerate things and make them into big issues, post public indirect’s, involve others, and refuse to confront people yourself - they’ll give up on your childish behaviour and move on with their lives. So if you’re someone who does any of the aforementioned, you might want to reevaluate your decisions.