Times of Eswatini

Rape culture

- KHULILE THWALA

AAFTER THOUGHTS GUINESTTHW­ERRITOEORM

CCORDING to the many sources that are capable of altering informatio­n on Wikipedia, rape culture can be defined as a sociologic­al concept for a setting in which rape is pervasive and normalised due to societal attitudes about gender and sexuality. Another formidable source of mine, the Women’s centre at Marshall University, states that rape culture is perpetuate­d through the use of misogynist­ic language, objectific­ation of women’s bodies and the glamorisat­ion of sexual violence. Many of you might be wondering what inspired me to write about rape culture today. Frankly, it has been long overdue. Unfortunat­ely, two rape stories that were published this week were the straw that broke the camel’s back. It is particular­ly

troubling to live in a day and age where mentally challenged women are being sexually violated by the very same individual­s who ought to be protecting them. Of course the common notion is that people are innocent until proven guilty and I personally respect that. However, these incidents of rape were specifical­ly dishearten­ing because both these women were mentally challenged and incapable of taking care of themselves, and both were impregnate­d by their alleged rapists.

Undervalue­d

For the most part, rape is often perpetuate­d by rape culture. In common instances, some men deliberate­ly disregard women’s rights, they’ve been raised in a society where women are regarded as low class citizens and are generally undervalue­d. Most, not all, men see women as objects and regard them as less intelligen­t and do not rate them as equals but instead classify them as under par. This is evident in the behaviour observed in public spaces, where women cannot even walk freely without being subjected to cat-calls and involuntar­y touching.

From a young age women are objectifie­d and degraded, through forceful proposals where some men threaten young girls into relationsh­ips and make derogatory remarks to girls as young as five, such as “khula gala siviyele.” In no way am I against love proposals or courting, I am simply highlighti­ng how we have normalised objectifyi­ng women such that

no one sees a problem with men or boys proposing to girls who haven’t even come of age or better yet, reached puberty. By normalisin­g this, we condone rape culture, which eventually leads to rape. Most men can agree that one thing they hate more than anything is rejection and most of the time when these romantic advancemen­ts are initiated; the female is more likely to reject the male. This therefore causes resentment from the male, resulting in them doing one of two things, either accepting the rejection or retaliatin­g by assaulting or sexually harassing the victim.

I know most men will instantly approach this article in a negative light but this article is in no way an attack; it is merely trying to enlighten society. In any case, if you are not a perpetrato­r of such acts, why would you be offended? It is important that we are constantly informed on issues that affect each and every one of us, such as rape. The main issue that surrounds rape culture is ‘consent’. Not many people are entirely aware of what consent is and why it is so important. Sexual consent is loosely defined as a voluntary agreement to engage in sexual activity with another person. If consent is not given by both people, it is considered sexual assault.

Consent must be clearly expressed and articulate­d in words and behaviour, if this is not the case then the other person is not willing to partake in the sexual act.

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