Need for emotional health in success
RECENTLY I questioned myself that outside of the motivational boot, where a lot of wise words and all the encouragement a person can possibly need according to society’s ‘go to guide’ to success. The question however remains one of results, with all the available advice out there, from books to videos to talk shows, the world has capitalised on the desperation to succeed that lies in humanity. It is of course human nature to be drawn towards the need for success because this establishes our place in society.
Need
There is an immense innate need to be something and that is the purpose of being human, to discover what drives us and what is meant for us so that we are able to succeed. Perhaps inevitably so we are meant to find a degree of unrest until we succumb to what fits our personal definition of success. Is it in fact just as ironic, that whilst success can be defined on the basis of what is acceptable, it is only fulfilling only to the extent that it meets the personal criteria and definition of the individual that seeks to attain it.
Why is it that despite the availability of information to supposedly nourish the soul and the mind and even more so to unlock the potential within every individual sitting in front of their screen looking for the perfect book or the perfect video. Despite all of this, there are still thousands of individuals waiting for enough courage and wisdom to make a move, to make a step towards meeting their desires, in fact it is important to question the gap in finding solutions, a misplaced victimisation that the world has failed to equip us with the adequate amount of knowledge and solutions.
Hurdle
This is to say that the problem, or rather hurdle is merely a result of external factors, but sometimes the problem is internal. It is personal and internal to the extent that no amount of reading or talk shows can bring about the desired outcomes. Even so, when there is a glitch in the external solutions, should it not be an indicator of selfintrospection? That there is a problem beyond the reasoning that something else is at play or someone else is at fault?
This is to say the problem is that if you continue to seek external solutions for internal problems, it digs deeper into the problem because the solution is only a one ticket street to a quick fix. This is another problem in the plight to success, and that is the unrealistic desire for a quick fix regarding everything, unfortunately so, success does not have the ability to forge solutions because the responsibility to do so is placed on the individual himself or herself. Have you introspected on how your own habits and mistakes continue to stand in the way of your own success? What do you do that creates problems? Sometimes it is you that is your own enemy and no one else is responsible apart from you. The biggest hurdle we have to overcome is ourselves, and maybe it has to do with fate, that we are beings rooted in the circumstances and challenges of ourselves. It is only until we can master ourselves and master the challenges that have accumulated within us that we can truly unlock our potential. Outside of the external factors, to what extent does selfintrospection come into play?
I strongly believe that it is critical that the task to bring about the best in people be person centred more than it can be ‘equipping’ centred, how can one be equipped for success when they lack the right mindset and emotional skills to do so? If we can encourage emotional courage and facing the traumatic barriers that hold people hostage from establishing healthy relationships and happy lives; should this not be a necessity to cultivate the individual to be emotionally healthy to maintain their purpose. This is the missing link, the one that continues to enable everyone with the stability to maintain success, starting is not the problem, moreover giving material for success to someone that lacks the capacity and emotional intelligence to carry it through effectively and long term is problematic. It is problematic because it widens the gap of intelligence quotient and emotional intelligence by ignoring the fact that in order for one to succeed they must be in a healthy emotional state, one that can be achieved by confronting the enemy within and by overcoming the selfinflicted challenges that stop us from being successful.