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Sir,
It is imperative that you realise that no matter what advice you receive, you always have a choice. You do not just have to follow it. Think it through carefully, weigh it and realise that whatever decision you take, it has been reached through one of your choices.
When life is going great for certain of us we tend to forget those who assisted us, in the past. Is money more important than returning a favour? Money is not everything.
You may end up with the money, but end up miserable because you may have eliminated someone who has always been there for you, who has walked with you through the bad, the ugly and the good.
Advise
When others advise you that they should be paying you for something, it is important to inform them of just how much certain people have contributed to the person you have become.
Realise that often the advice extended to you would solve the problems of the very person giving it, but may not fulfil all your requirements and thus the reason I say you should ponder on same in depth. Whatever decision you take, ensure that there are no ulterior motives in that decision. Your intent should be pure; it should be for your good and the good of all concerned. Maliciousness will always return pain and discomfort whereas goodness will bring you peace of mind.
Consciousness
Tap into your inner consciousness for therein lies all the answers you need. At times, there are ‘truths’ that come to the fore, deal with them because you have to make amends in certain areas of your behaviour and past habits. You will know exactly what has to be done, denial is not going to make you progress. You have to embrace those aspects that need changing; learn what has to be learnt for unless you do that, the same situation will keep on popping up in your life.
Change your circle of friends if you have to for often it is not that we have changed, but that we now look at things differently. Even keeping away for some time and spending quiet time will help you as you think about whatever it is that is holding you back. Remember, it is okay to find time to think without distractions and noise.
In life there are no one size fits all solutions. Many will give advice on situations they have never encountered and they, therefore, cannot fathom the degree of the turmoil one may be going through. It is only when they find themselves in that situation that they fully comprehend what one was encountering. Choose carefully whom you choose to confide in; after all you do not want your sensitive matters being the subject of discussion elsewhere. If someone repeats something someone else has told them, realise that your story too will be repeated.
Do not accept advice or assistance that comes with conditions. Bear in mind that when we are in unsettling situations, following through conditions will drain even more one who is already drained. The solutions are always within you, for everything you need for this journey in this lifetime is already within you. Stop undermining your own potential to resolve your hurdles. You are more talented than you ever imagined.
Antonio