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HE world is fast emerging and each day is the reality that everything has a good side and a bad side; even the concept of a ‘soft life’. This seems to be a new term that has just been thrown into society and has gripped the long standing perspective of gendered issues and has again drawn the battlefield lines in bold.
The divisive nature of soft life has created mental issues, social pressure and a level of dictatorship on what should be acceptable for women and what should not, and because of this, it merely highlights the importance of educating women on their freedom to be who they want to be without measuring it up to the standards set by men, and educating men that accepting a woman’s choice to be who they want outside of what they do for men or endure from men does not take away anything from them.
This has brought about a level of empowerment for women and children, by creating a reality in which
women are able to self-accomplish their wants and go beyond their needs. This is largely rooted in the long strife in which women only were represented as strong on the basis of striving for merely their needs and to not dream of a life that provides them the liberty of their being.
The ‘soft life’shows the admirable length in which society has advanced to nurturing the independence of women, by normalising the strength of women outside of endurance as a defining stance for their being and character. By upholding the woman’s desire to rebrand and to create a version of themselves that is in accordance with their desires and wants, and not one that has been accepted on the merit of being defined by men or patriarchy as the standard for a woman’s worth and self-respect.
Tolerance
This is because the version that has long existed before today has been one in which women are only loved on the measure of their tolerance and perseverance, and not how much they are able to water themselves and live outside of any obligations or suffering. However, in all that is good, there is an element of bad that eats away at it and this is the hyper sexualised version of ‘soft life’that is pushing our youth and young girls towards the grasp of old men in a society that renders young women to be objects of unwarranted materialism. This is the issue, that there is always a chance to demean women where their growth is separated from the action or inaction of men and the same train has hiked this station.
The shortcoming is the pressure of women to become, and the belief that becoming and being
good enough as a women is based on what you wear, how you dress, what you have, where you go or even what you buy and it’s the pursuit of striving to become with utmost self-respect. The desire for women to be their own women the agenda has been lost in the pages of competitiveness and the mindset that another female should not be good – at least unless the level of good remains beneath another and so every woman is looking to appear better – superior – without the regard for self-respect or the reality of what ‘soft life’ is and what elements of becoming it stands for. The ‘soft life’ is not merely about a woman being able to get whatever they want, it is about being able to do so without hurting their self-respect or that of another, and even more so it is about doing so at the capacity of self. So much has gone wrong in the plight to liberate women into pouring into themselves, investing into self-love and their wants without feeling guilty about the responsibilities they have towards their families, children and even husbands.
This has pushed those out of these bounds to seek the capacity to do the same from older men who are willing to use them for sexual favours in exchange for money. On the other hand, it has given bitter man the mouth and the liberty to insult everyone that dares look good on the account that it is probably from an older man, and not within the perimeters that some women have the capacity to meet their wants and obligations without men being in the picture. The gap now lies in removing the competitive venom that limits the growth of young women in the transition to stand on their own.