We were all lied to

Madam,

Adulting is one of the biggest lies we were ever sold. , am okay with returning to the sandbox and having my biggest worry be how not to get caught speaking si6wati at school by one of the teachers? Ah, those were the simple days. ,nterestingly enough, while we were children we marvelled at the adults, watch ing them navigate the world as if they were 7itans, providing for us, making it look so effortless, even making us want to be adults too.

We wanted to be adults so bad because of the power it seemed to embody. Adults seemed to have it all and easy access to money (or so we thought). /isten, it was a real problem such that we would play ‘homes’ and everyone wanted to be the ‘father’ or the ‘mother’ mainly for the power (my age mates know the other reason but it was mostly for the power). Anyways, that’s how obsessed with it we were.

1ow ,’m out here in a state, main ly because , cannot tell you how much our parents elders kept us

from and continue to do so, in some respect. When you step outside into the world and have to deal with bills, work, spouses it’s all facing you, you can’t help but wonder how they made it all happen when you were young. %eing an adult is a

hour, days Mob. 1o vacation days, Must work.

RESPONSIBILITY

,’m sure all the somethings know this struggle of living by yourself and how your world is shaken by the reality of being an adult as everything is on you. ,t’s not even the financial stuff that is most stressful, it is the full respon sibility and navigating the space of adulthood without a handbook. 7hat time we hadn’t had children yet.

,f one thing adulting has taught me is to be greatly appreciative of our parents and guardians. , remember when growing up my grandmother used to shout from wherever she was in the house ‘emanti ami’ (my water) when she heard the water running in the bath too long.

7his was a long standing Moke in my family about her drama, but