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Ein the week my heart sank as I read a story about a lady in Pigg’s Peak who committed suicide after being jilted by a lover. It’s not relevant if they were married or not or why he dumped her, the reality is a life was lost at the end of the day.

Crimes of passion and gender-based violence always break my heart. I don’t know what the poor woman was promised, maybe marriage or more, but what hurts me is that she decided to end her life because the relationship ended.

In the story it was mentioned that she did ask for help from her friend, but unfortunately she couldn’t get it. She decided to end her life all alone.

I have learnt that the strongest people are actually the most vulnerable, because they are scared to ask for help. They’d rather cry it out alone or act tough. It’s ok to ask for help, it’s not a sign of weakness at all.

Today’s article however, is about being dumped by a boyfriend, lover, Ben 10, baby daddy or husband. Sometimes it just doesn’t work out; it has nothing to do with you but the other person.

I have been dumped too, several times I might add. I found having a bowl of ice cream, like most women doesn’t work for me.

I just binge eat, because I braaied meat.

I have found that after being dumped, I spend more on unnecessary things that I regret later, most people call it retail therapy, which is the most expensive kind of therapy as its attached to emotions.

Never mind the satisfaction of looking at the new shoes weeks later after you have stopped crying every time his name is mentioned.

When you have stopped calling him just to check how he is, knowing very well that there’s no longer ‘us’.

After you have deleted his pictures on Facebook as painful as it is, especially when they ask; are you sure you want to delete, but for your sanity you opt yes.

When you have stopped calling his friends just to check whom he’s dating now.

Its ok for something’s to end, so greater things can come to life. love food

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Steve Harvey says when one door closes just walk up the hall, there are more doors. Don’t bang on the closed door, but keep walking. I know it’s easier said than done.

But think back to a time where you thought you’d never get over Sipho and look at where you are now. Time is a great healer, everything changes with time.

So give yourself time to get over Sipho, but don’t take drastic steps, because he ended the relationship, bafana bangaka.

If they end it they were not even worth it to begin with. I saw a quote the other day, it said, “If I’m more go find less.”

So what if he dumped you because you were demanding respect?, you wanted him to stop cheating around.

Because you demanded him to step up his game and limit drinking every weekend with no savings or back up plan, as we are living in an economic crisis, thanks to the pandemic.

To the ladies out there for whatever reason Sipho is dumping you for, it’s ok. Life goes on eventually. Your family needs, your kids, your friends and I, need you.

So if he dumps you just text me and we will go out and binge eat meat, cry and laugh about him losing the best thing to ever to happen to him and plan for the lucky one who will appreciate you.

We will go shopping of course to change your look; we will go on a diet and look fabulous atsi ahlangana nawe and regret dumping you. We will look hot, work hard make more money, invest build homes and be fabulous.

Because life is great to be cut short untimely especially for Sipho, who probably never even deserved you in the first place.

When the time is right you will meet someone else and you will understand why it never worked out with Sipho, because kahle kahle he was never yours.

The right one will stay forever!