Embrace mistakes

M Yfavourite author, who was very intelligent and the master of words, Albert Einstein, once quoted, “anyone who has never made a mistake has never tried something new.” And today I am going to share with you the element of mistakes and failure which seems to destroy most of us. You know we are all trying to build a better life and creating something huge, which we are going to be proud of one day when we are in that old stage.

I am very sure that you have once done that something stupid and it is now messing up your head as you are trying to fix everything. If I can share some of the stupid things I have done so far, I am sure you would not believe me but hey, what is important is that we fix those mistakes because if we don’t, we will always feel like something is missing, more like a part of you is gone.

So last week I was bored after finishing my article and I decided to watch an online podcast. The host (Jeanne) was full of life and energy while she’s in her 40s, I just fell in love with her, I was like, ‘so much energy, she is surely gold’. And the topic was based on heartbreaks and love even though knowing exactly that I am not a fan of love relationships lend an ear.

Trust me on this one, that podcast really changed my mindset on some other things. I know probably you have faced heartbreak and at some point you felt like it was too much for you to handle but hey, who are you after all. Let me tell you this, I may not know what really happened and who disappointed you but what I know is that you are an absolute amazing fighter and a winner.

My readers always triumph, so do not ever feel like you are not enough for someone, don’t ever make that mistake. I know that you think I am just saying because it is my work but that is not true, I care a lot about you and I know what I am talking about.

TRICKS

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Maybe some of you have been wondering if they will ever be good for that partner they love so much and that partner is playing tricks, taking you for a ride.

There is no greater pain than finding out that the person whom you have given your heart has been playing with your emotions the whole time.

So enough about the sad sentiments. Jeanne explained that heartbreaks are never easy and always painful if you were attached to that person and she shared with her viewers what she had done in the name of love and it was not something she was proud of. So, this one time coming from work, tired only in need of her bed and coffee.

To her surprise, she found her boyfriend and a receptionist from her work and her eyes could not believe it.

Her boyfriend tried apologising, you know how guys are but she packed her bags and left the scene. She told her viewers that she spent the whole night thinking of a plan to revenge and hurt them just as they did and the first target was the lady, who was a receptionist. She said she sabotaged her at work daily she made sure that she ruined her till she was fired from being a receptionist and the next target was the ‘boyfriend’.

She started stalking him on social media and she knew some of his weakness and she posted his shadow video on Instagram and Facebook and his image was tarnished just like that. Hectic neh. That is what I said after I watched the podcast, Jeanne does have the nerve but she spent her whole life trying to fix that, she even got the lady work much payable than the receptionist job.

But as for the image of the ex-boyfriend she tarnished, that could not be fixed.

I understand the feeling she went through after finding out that the person she loved so much was not feeling the same about her. worst mistake she did was trying to settle the score when it was actually not worth it. She fought a battle which was not going to build her to become a better person.

REVENGE

I am all about creating a better life and that is what I usually tell my readers.

One thing you should know is that, moving on and becoming successful is the best revenge because that is when you are transformed to being independent and depending on someone is ridiculous. Weeks ago I wrote an article about moving on. I emphasised that do not give someone the reason to control you in any way; be of money or love. Money cannot buy love, it is just for keeping you close to them in case they need something and you will always feel indebted to them. Remember that you are a gem, gold actually. So, don’t ever feel that you

are not worthy of something.

The mistakes that you have done do not describe you but they mean that you tried something new with the hope that it would be exciting. Same thing about failure, it does not mean you are not capable of doing an excellent job.

I have a testimony on failure. Failing to pitch a good proposal doesn’t mean you are not good with proposals, it means go back to the drawing board and figure out what went wrong and try again.

You can’t give up on your dreams because those dreams describe you, they are part of you.

We fall but what is important is that we get up.

AWKWARDNESS

I know that some of you have maybe tried applying for jobs and I know the awkwardness of interviews and after that interview they never contacted you but it is not the end of the road. Actually, it is the beginning of it.

I don’t want you to give up on your dreams because if you do that nothing will make you happier. I know a lot of people, who have done that before and they would tell me that they just had to adjust, we can never have all what we wish for. And my question is, why can’t we have all that we want.

Some would also tell me that dreams die and what will happen to you if they do. You will be tarnished but what I am saying is, dreams do come true, you just have to believe in them.

If you don’t who will do that for you. Someone once said, ‘the world is your oyster.”

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