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Ihad an interesting chat with an old friend of mine about her latest squeeze, or bae as she calls him. You can tell it’s new and fresh as she still has stars in her eyes whenever she talks about him.

Quite frankly, it’s sweet and adorable to see her so in love with her Sipho, it’s really refreshing. It’s not that I’m naïve or not happy for her, she just doesn’t get it when I advise her against posting him on her WhatsApp status, Facebook, Instagram and Twitter just yet.

I get it, it’s new and exciting, she still gets butterflies when he calls, but three months in, is still very new to start posting him.

We see it all the time, with celebrities when they travel to this luxurious holiday destinations with their new boyfriends or girlfriends and post their beacations.

We have seen mostly international Hollywood stars when they start dating someone the whole world knows. It doesn’t help that they are photographed by paparazzi when leaving a restaurant after a cozy dinner, even though it’s beyond their control sometimes.

Lori Harvey, daughter of the legendary comedian, motivational icon Steve Harvey for instance, she had a public relationship with my crush Michael B Jordan.

In as much as I have a crush on him, I thought they really made a cute couple. They were photographed at different events and they posted on their social as well, they were certainly posting their activities and movements as a couple. As fate would have it, they ended the relationship recently.

I get it, the most beautiful relationship sometimes end, and there’s nothing one can do about it, kusuke sekufike sikhatsi. But what sparked the debate between me and my old friend is when there was a collage of couples that have been together for over 20 years and more, the list had Denzel Washington and his wife, Samuel Jackson, LL Cool Angela Basset and hubby, Snoop Dog and his wife, quite a few Hollywood giants.

After every picture of the long-term couples, a picture of Lori Harvey was put up with different guys he’s dated. From rapper Drake and other famous Basketball players from the US. I’m not saying that there’s anything wrong with the fact that she’s been dating, the point I’m driving home is all her relationships were too public.

Yes, I get that she’s daughter of a famous icon, but personally I think privacy is power. You can never go wrong with being private; people can’t ruin what they don’t know. Had she kept her relationships private and way from the lime light, most people wouldn’t know what they know about her, angiyi phatsi ke the reputation, coz wow!

Back to my friend, I convinced her that it’s soon to post Sipho, I get it usemtsandvweni and I’m genuinely happy for her, but no posting! So she asked me when can she post him, and I told her after the wedding.

She looked at me puzzled and asked why that long for her to show off her new man? I asked her what if they broke up in two months.

Will she then go back and take down the posts or keep her as memories? What about the emotional strain of deleting the pictures that were posted prematurely.

What if it turns out Sipho has a ‘baby mama’ who is convinced they are still together? What if Sipho is secretly married or engaged to his high school sweetheart, ngiyabekisa.

The man is over 30 years old; he clearly had a life before three months ago. I then asked her if he actually wanted to be posted or it’s meant to be a surprise? Was it discussed, and watsini uvumile, noma, there’s no need since vele bayajola? She couldn’t answer me!

Here’s my two cents worth to women, don’t be too quick to show off your new man, just enjoy the relationship without putting too much pressure on it, by putting it on the spotlight, especially if it’s still new, it’s even trickier if it’s someone known.

Personally, I think the minute you post you; you are inviting spectators in your life. Also nabomgcaki who were not aware of you, but now they will make sure you know they are also in his life, angikhulumi ke if there’s a ‘baby mama’ who won’t let him go.

Privacy is beautiful and power! So yes, only post him when it’s official, better yet let him post you first.

But the safest time to post him is when they bring the cattle to your family, or after you have graced his family’s kraal, or wearing your wedding gown!