Sometimes it’s not to be fought!

WE all want better days, and we are all trying to fight for them, as we struggle along with life. I do not know much, but I have since realised that we are more convinced on the success and truth of something when we have had the chance to fight for it. It is so natural to us, that even the simplest of ‘do a job ‘, get paid’ routine sometimes worries us since we assume we are to work twice as hard for us to gain something. I mean; are we body building?

Sometimes worrying over something just consumes so much of our energy, the very one we should be using to just do and be what life has since brought before us, because trust me, you may find yourself going all over the world trying to find that one thing you assume you need, and only to realise that you have wasted all your time in the world while you had already had everything with you. Some things, we just are not to fight over or fight for, they just have to be and should be left that way. If we fight them, we end up losing more than we gain, and we somehow lose ourselves in the process.

Getting straight to it, I could make an example on how we sometimes fight for a pass in things we do. And the truth that should be faced is that, well yes, hard work pays, but sometimes we have to sit back, relax and let things happen the way they should.

FIGHT

After a long fight, after trying in so many times to make things work out in our favour, we need to do ourselves such a great favour, and that is to rest! If we have been fighting so long, of course we are tired, we need to reprocess and redefine us, the more we fight is the more we lose us, and when we lose us, we cannot find direction to our goals and dreams, and now we do not want that.

In love, we find ourselves trying to get that one thing, trying to be that one person and I mean arguing over what we cannot be and do, instead of us trying to seek the ways in which we could embrace who we are. If we realize that we are so busy, going after our dreams, trying to secure such a better life for each other.

Then we have to reach an understanding ; how can we make it work, how we can balance each other’s free time so we make our own time, to be together and bond. Because at the end of the day, we do not want to find ourselves having lost the touch and connection we held within ourselves for each other, because that would be such a waste.

This is to say, sometimes we do not have to shout at each other, be angry at one another, point fingers, blame each other, but we just need to take a deep breath, and at that, try to realise what is more important; time or us being together.

Because time may be there, and we still would not be able to use it, so, we need to simply find the gap, and see how we could fill it up. And sometimes, we try to run away, but since destiny has got more power, it always fins us. I am such a believer of destiny, but I have never believed in fate. Though I know that there are some things, not good, which have happened in my life, those that had to happen, in which I have grown and had to embrace. Well see, the situation in which you grew or are in fact growing in, that is not something you applied for, maybe it is so bad that you look at it in those emotional days and cry yourself to sleep, but the truth is, you never chose it for you, but you were made to grow through it, for a purpose. So, instead of you trying to fight against it, learn to be accepting of it, so in that way it will be so easy for you to know how to live around it, and also create a channel in which you will also change it for the better.

So, it is not every time that fighting is worth it. I mean we cannot be contradicting with the situation every time, but sometimes we just need to; accept it, learn to embrace it, live with it, and make it grow us, better us, and then let it encourage us to open another channel, that will lead us to greener pastures .

I mean we really always want to fight it, and most of the time we find ourselves trying to figure out a shorter cut to ending it, and thing about short cuts is that they really have shortcomings and these are very dangerous, and we never really want to suffer the fate of guilt they bring now do we? You just do not want to sell your soul to make it in life, because you will need that soul to keep you sane as you keep living in the very dream.

Maybe I might have said so many things right now, some of which you all are finding so hard to understand, but I know you will get this when you make it reflect in your own personal life.

MAYBE

What I am trying to say actually is the fact that, we cannot be fighting all the time over these things that bring us down, sometimes we should just let them be and trust that life will make it happen. After all, we have to go through these things and pick something up from it. Maybe you do not have to fight for the relationship, but try to learn something from this time in at which you are apart, or you just should not argue with them over the same issue over and over again, but just go quiet, ignore it and see what happens, I mean who would want to be complaining over the same thing as though their mind is not functioning well? We all need a peace of mind, and if we cannot find it, maybe we should not fight the things that drive us crazy, but just learn to live with them, and make them make us …now how about that? Feel free to comment on my email; dlaminilenhle0@ gmail.com