Learn to be self-dependent

Madam,

There are three kinds of people, those who make things happen, those who watch things happening and those who wonder what happened.

We have been taught by our parents to work hard in order to have a bright future. Our parents insisted that they don't want us to struggle like they did yesteryears.

In fact, God was the first to order a person to work hard, He did this through Adam. He said every person shall eat the sweat of his or her brow, *HQHVLV YHUVH Despite all these, it seems like some people don't agree with this ideology. We are living in an era where people are used to always depend on someone for even little things. If those people's mindset can change and be wired positively, where they would understand how important it is to stand up and try on their own, the beautiful country would be on safe hands.

SITUATIONS

It's better to have money and be broken hearted than to be broke and be broken hearted. It is without doubt that there are situations in life that break your heart, whether in intimate relationships, family relationships, and work relationships, to name a few. The subject is not solely on intimate relationship as a majority may think. We have learnt that people who broke our hearts are those who are close to us that are the people who are within our circle. Sometimes passing away of our loved ones can break our hearts. Natural disaster is another factor that can break your heart in multiple ways. With that said, you should learn to be self - dependent to prevent lamenting too much should the heart-breaking situation finds you.

If for instance you have parents who are able to take care for you financially, especially when you have grown up enough to stand for yourself, it is so crucial to have your own means of surviving should anything happen. If you are a woman either single or married, you should be able to pay your bills yourself. When you are a married woman, do not solely depend on your husband. We are living in a dynamic world where anything can change without notice, so be prepared to be self-dependent. If ever a heartbreaking situation happens to yourself and you have money, it could be easier for you to pick up than someone who would befell by a similar situation yet they have no money. The idea does not depict that money can heal a broken heart, but it's of the view that having money when you are heart-broken is better than being heart-broken and be broke. Everyone should try by all best possible means to be financially stable in order to be able to pay their own bills in case of the inevitable factor called change.

Njabulo M Bhembe