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I didn’t attend the funeral, but my siblings did. Well personally because I was heavily pregnant, in fact two months away from giving birth and my parents were totally against me setting foot where there was bereavement and I was expecting a life.

Frankly, I don’t remember if there was an official girlfriend at the time or if she attended the funeral and played the makoti by default role lapho.

I didn’t want to know because I was expecting his child so I didn’t want to know about another person if it wasn’t me, but let’s move on.

The joy and freedom one feels after after getting over baby daddy is liberating. In fact, after I let go I was happy when he was in a serious relationship, in fact I was vouching and praying that he married the one who loved my children.

So from my experience when you have truly let him go, you genuinely are happy for them for whoever they decide or choose to be with. In fact, you also then want to see them do well because the bigger picture is the innocent child whom you have brought into this world, who is looking at both of you for guidance about life.

Kairo will hopefully not be a bitter woman because her mum was not a bitter person. Her mum has taught her a life lesson, in fact she taught all of us including me how the power of moving on and letting go, is truly liberating.

If I were to hear that any of my exs is getting married, I would even send a gift just to show happy I am for them, no hard feelings.

So to the baby mamas who are still struggling to let go of baby daddy and think the current woman is the problem, please know and take it from me, you do turn the corner and get over him eventually.

It doesn’t happen overnight it’s a process, you will know when you get there, you won’t be bothered about what he’s doing with who and why, if anything you would wish them well even if that means he won’t be sharing his life with you. Give it time, its possible, if DJ Zinhle could do it then it’s possible.