See you at the crossroad
Hyou ever come to a crossroad in your life? A point where you know something needs to change, but you have more than one option and it feels like there’s a lot of pressure on you to make the right choice. Well, that is what each one of us goes through at some point in our lives. A point where you just feel you need to take a break from life or even worse you wish that life had a ‘pause and reset’ button. I feel that despite all that you are feeling you just need to move out of your comfort zone. You can only grow if you are willing to feel awkward and uncomfortable when you try something new. Don’t get me wrong. It will be a bit scary as usual but going through such a phase gives you a reference experience for future challenges. Sometimes When it’s been a long time since you really pushed yourself, a new challenge can seem incredibly frightening. What you need to know is facing a challenge makes you feel alive again. Being stagnant will depress your emotions and that means you will feel less of an achiever. When you start getting feelings of being a failure you even start to lose confidence. You even start doubting your own capabilities. However, when you push yourself out of your comfort zone, you start to think of yourself as a person who can do things. Our self-image is such a vague and always changing idea in our minds, but it is one that unavoidably has a big impact on our lives. By doing things that allow you to have a positive self-image, you gather the momentum to pull yourself out of tough times.
CREATURES OF HABIT
We are creatures of habit. Although we may act as if we are comfortable with change, but, most of us are a little scared of making big life changes. This is true even if the changes are desirable or things we need to do. We say to ourselves that what we have is not that bad and that is it ok to hang on. Yet deep down we know we’re just pretending to ourselves. An author I recently read his book is John Lennon, who wrote
that ultimately everything boils down to fear or love. He said: “When we are afraid, we pull back from life. When we are in love, we open to all that life has to offer with passion, excitement and acceptance. We need to learn to love ourselves first, in all our glory and our imperfections. If we cannot love ourselves, we cannot fully open to our ability to love others or our potential to create. Evolution and all hopes for a better world rest in the fearlessness and open-hearted vision of people who embrace life.”
THE HEAD OR HEART
When at crossroads we just never are sure of what to do, whether we follow our heads or our hearts. Sadly often we are frequently told following our heart is foolish. Yet, your head can’t work out what makes you happy only your heart knows what makes you smile, and toes tap to the music of your life. And happiness is not always logical, so all the analysis in the world may not give you the right answer. So, when deciding on a significant life change, choose first with your heart because that leads to happiness. Then work out the logistics with your head to find a way of making it happen. This way is far more likely to result in happy endings.
INSPIRATION
When you push yourself out of your comfort zone, you get to inspire other people around you, it will change how they perceive you and how they act toward you, and in doing so alter the perception that you have of yourself. But maybe even more importantly, inspiring people around you can encourage them to push their own comfort zones, and their actions will in turn inspire you. When you spend more and more time around people who are helping each other grow, you’ll all benefit from each other’s positivity, and the boundaries of what you believe is possible will expand.Even if you’re not sure what you want to do next, I am willing to bet you are clear and what you DON’T want. No matter if your crossroads is about love, family, home, work or money or a mix of all of these list your top three things that you categorically do NOT want to experience. Write these down. I know you might be tempted to skip writing them down but please do it. Open a file, and list them, or simply take a scrap of paper and scribble them down. Doing this is like removing a block from a dam in the psyche. With the block removed, it allows thoughts and ideas begin to flow once more. Perhaps you wrote something along the lines of not wanting to do your current job any more, or no longer wanting cramped space at home, or that you don’t want to be lonely. No matter what you wrote down, flip them to the opposite even if you think this is impossible or can’t see how to make it happen. Again, writing it down frees your mind, spirit and soul from a stuck place. After you have written down these three new things, what is beginning to rise to the top? Surprisingly, it often not what you thought it would be. Like realising the reason you’ve not applied for a more exciting and better-paid job is because it means moving away from family and friends. Or wanting to have a home with more space, means a bigger mortgage and your job doesn’t feel secure. Or to no longer feel lonely means dating again, which fills you with dread.
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