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Sir,

Everyone has a fuse; whether short or long, it does blow up at some point. For some, when this happens all hell breaks loose but for others; the damage is not so disconcerting. What happens is some people rarely react when angered that when they do, it becomes a shocker to everyone close to that person.

This is as a result of bottling up negative influences over time that when they react, death may even follow. When one is mad it is easy to act on impulse. This person may look at what’s in front of them and try to ‘sort’ the issue at that point without looking at the consequences.

Temper

When this happens, and the temper dies down, it usually is much too late to reverse the actions one has taken in that fit of rage.

The aggressor, at this point, may have either told the one they care about most off, told superiors to stay off his/her case, upturned furniture or even killed their spouse. Should any of these have occurred, the aggressor is so far deep that mending fences will either result in suspension or jail time. That is if they have not taken their lives.

The result thereof is that this person now lives with guilt and regret for the rest of their lives over something they did in a couple of seconds to a few minutes; a period so short that takes away the rest of their lives.

Decisions

It is intriguing though that people continually make decisions when they are mad; and they decide to act on their emotional state than decide to come back to the situation later when they have calmed down and ready to talk things through.

No doubt it takes a special kind of person to keep their head down when faced with a volatile situation – it is not easy but one should learn to deal with their anger as failing to do so leaves one scarred and lifeless.

No one wants to be with a hothead and if your top blows off at the slightest of misgivings, you may find yourself stranded and lonely.

Good things come to those who humble themselves. If you burn your bridges, retracing your steps is the best option. However, crime is crime and if one finds themselves in those fields it is nothing but an issue for the courts; that is why it is always best to walk away from that which tries to bring you down – you will lose nothing by being humble.

Andzile

Messed

Nevertheless, should one have messed up at work, church, community, home or otherwise; asking for forgiveness is key.

Breaking bottles and swearing at your boss may leave an indelible mark on your career but it does not necessarily put you on a ‘blacklist’. We all strive to make our lives better and mistakes do happen – everyone understands we have breaking points, but it is only when it becomes a habit that it presents a problem.

There is no limit to what you do. Don’t focus on money or success, just be the moment.

Forget the naysayers, forget the past, forget the future. Be the moment. Forget the mistakes. Do not let guilt play your moment, let love play the moment. Let your heart play the moment, do not let fear play you - Jeremy Linn.