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Sir,

A lot of girls complain that guys walk away from them simply because they refused having sex with them, some are even tempted to give away their virginity just to keep the guys.

Virginity may not be the real reason why the guys go away. Yes, no doubt, there are several guys who want sex, and if they don’t get it, they walk away. The problem may not be the virginity or the sex. The story of the 10 virgins in the Bible reveals that both the wise and the foolish were virgins; the other five were not allowed to see the bridegroom not because they were virgins or because they lost their virginity, but because they were foolish and they were called foolish because they had no extra oil. And the extra oil in this instance is character.

H Chirwa

Offer

Most girls do not have extra oil to sustain any relationship. While many brag about their virginity, that’s all they have to offer. Besides your virginity, what do you have to offer to a man? Can you support him spiritually? Can you support him physically? How about mentally? All you do is demand money for shoes and clothes, making him spend unnecessarily.

Have you ever sat him down, and helped him plan for his future? Has he ever seen you as someone he could confide in? How many times has he been in a state of dilemma and sought advice from you?

And some girls forget that virginity ends after the wedding, but extra oil continues. Yes, nobody is perfect, we all have our bad sides. But try to be a woman who a man will always regret losing for the rest of his life. Be that woman who your man can never afford to lose to another man. Build your man to your taste, and stop looking for an already made husband. There’s just nothing as best as building up your man yourself, and you will forever earn his respect.