Truth, resolution
Two sides
I FULLY respect Korina Waibuta’s sentiments that Christmas is not the time to name and shame someone and his family publicly (FT 25/12).
However, one must understand there is something much bigger than that.
It is called truth and justice which must prevail at all times whether it is Christmas Day or any other day.
There is no trial by the media here. Both individuals have chosen to tell the public their versions of the allegation of their own volition. They were not interviewed by the newspaper.
Be as it may, we have heard both sides of the story and should now allow the justice system to do its work. SELWA NANDAN
Lautoka
Headline issue
Korina may wish Christmas to be all sugar and light, but the reality is the darkness of evil exists –– even in the Christmas story.
The slaughter of the innocent children by Herod cannot be overlooked, nor should the suffering of women.
Thank you Fred for giving space for both sides of the story. It is good to listen, but please, it is not for us the readers and public to do the judging. TESSA MACKENZIE
Suva
Struggle for something
“I HATED every minute of training, but I said, ‘Don’t quit. Suffer now and live the rest of your life as a champion.” –– Muhammad Ali
With the approach of 2020, people will have resolutions.
The vast majority of those resolutions will crash and burn before the end of January.
Part of the reason for that is resolutions are based on outcomes. Lose weight, start a successful business, gain muscle, enter a passionate relationship. What we need to resolve to do is commit instead to a process — eating better and exercising, doing the work, lifting weights, being open to new people.
Beyond that, resolutions are a call for change that we’re already dead set against.
The reason that New Year’s resolutions don’t work is that we each have established patterns of behaviours and deeply held beliefs that resist change.
For every conscious resolution to lose weight, stop drinking, save money, call your mum more often, control your temper, or finish that project there are unconscious commitments to keep things exactly as they are.
So, what we’re really setting ourselves up for each new year is struggle, starting with the fight against our unconscious desire to not change.
On top of that, you have the struggle of the process itself, whether that be starting something new (working out), or quitting a bad habit (smoking). So instead of resolutions involving a beneficial outcome, ask yourself, what are you willing to struggle for in 2020? These type of loaded questions kick like an angry mule. Rather than relying on misguided January 1 optimism, set yourself up for success by admitting it’s going to be hard, really hard — but worth it.
“No pain, no gain” isn’t just about the gym. It’s about achieving anything worthwhile you choose to pursue. Choose wisely my friend, your future depends upon it.
My greatest wish for you in 2020 is that you choose something that tests you, that challenges you and most important, that’s worth suffering for! ARVIND MANI
Nadi