Our 5-year-old daugh­ter has been scared stiff of wolves for months. She even asks us to stop them from com­ing into her bed­room ev­ery night. — How can we re­as­sure her?

Milk Magazine (English) - - EDUCATION -

Caro­line Khanafer, psy­chol­o­gist. An an­i­mal at once fas­ci­nat­ing and fright­en­ing, the wolf is part of the col­lec­tive imag­i­na­tion. That he sud­denly ap­pears and that your daugh­ter is going through a pe­riod of night-time fears is nor­mal. She needs them in or­der to de­velop her per­son­al­ity and cope with ag­gres­sive im­pulses. Al­low your­selves time to lis­ten and ob­serve be­fore re­act­ing. If you sweep away her fear be­fore she’s been able to con­front it, then it’ll sim­ply go some­where else. Lis­ten to her, play a game with her to chase the wolf out of her room, put a night light at her bed­side, but avoid let­ting her come into your bed. That would only con­firm that there was a dan­ger. She will even­tu­ally con­struct a re­as­sur­ing the­ory for her­self. If she re­peat­edly has night­mares and men­tions be­ing scared at other times than bed­time, then ask her about her feel­ings. Some­thing up­set­ting may have hap­pened in her day-to-day life.

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