SEX POSITIVITY AND DARK ROOMS

Being explicit about ones’ preferences, fun enough to fulfill fantasies and brave enough to head to the dark rooms – even with strangers, are all things many people would consider as sex positivity. What about using substances that trigger excitement and relaxes you - yet knowing your own boundaries inside the dark rooms? We got interested in the good - the bad - the beautiful, and - the ugly when it comes to this topic. What responsibilities do the clubs have and how can we keep on enjoying the celebration of sexual freedom yet keep people safe from sexual assault.

The words sex and positive put together are presumed to be feministic and carry a strong foundation of bravery and confidence. But do sex positive spaces have any dark sides, and does being sex positive also mean that one has already faced demons and traumas from the past, something that many women and queer people assert. The experimental part of the word can include discovering sex fantasies and bringing them to life. A common one is having sex in public; with a person you don’t know and have never spoke to or having sex surrounded by others who are also enjoying themselves.

Sex positivism includes those sexual activities that should be consensual, healthy, and pleasurable - as well as experimental. It also advocates for sex education and owning the way one enjoys to have sex. Berlin is a city filled with ”sex positive spaces and clubs” if that means having a dark room, and being able to be naked and maybe pleasure yourself sexually amongst others. Also, they often include people who have been consuming alcohol, drugs or both.

We’ve met people who have been experiencing some of their absolute most glorious sex moments in clubs, some who have had to deal with the trauma it caused and some who are fighting for Berlin’s dark room’s to be safe spaces for everyone.